How to Tell if a Man is Serious or Playing Games?

[misseksaherada]

What i dont respect is people planning to hook a guy via the pikot method. Its underhanded, scheming, , dastardly, sneaky. Why doesnt she just come out and tell the guy "hey, I want you to impregnate me because I want you to be beholden to your kid and me for the rest of your life." Lets see what the guy does.

Dishonesty is a freaking crazy basis for a relationship.

Yes, may mga ganyan ding mga lalaki.. Dadayain ang safe s3x sa mga gf nila kasi inatake ng insecurities ayun unplanned pregnancy.. Pikot din yun..
Sa case ng friend ni Ms. Cathy, mas nakikita ko yung pain nya sa mga past relationships niya kaya siya nauwi sa ganyang decision..
Pero who knows.. May mga successful naman ang marriage kahit dahil sa "pikot".. Endless possibilities..

[ninjababez]

I have no issue with single moms. I absolutely respect their dedication and work and overcoming adversity . I admire them to the max.

What i dont respect is people planning to hook a guy via the pikot method. Its underhanded, scheming, , dastardly, sneaky. Why doesnt she just come out and tell the guy "hey, I want you to impregnate me because I want you to be beholden to your kid and me for the rest of your life." Lets see what the guy does.

Dishonesty is a freaking crazy basis for a relationship.






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naalala ko si chapelle ..

Dave Chappelle no pikot!

[misseksaherada]

naalala ko si chapelle ..

Dave Chappelle no pikot!

Hahahahahaha ok ito ah Sir Ninja.. [emoji23]
Very good [emoji1303]
Yun lang din kasi iniisip ko, wala naman din mapipikot kung di naman papatulan.. Tito ko kasi, kapatid ng mama ko napikot yun.. Sinubukan niya takbuhan yung babae sa Iloilo, nagpunta dito sa bahay.. Iyak siya sa mama ko kasi hindi niya gusto yung babae..
Sabi ng mama ko, "Ang tanda mo na.."
"Bakit mo kasi pinatulan, eh alam mo na"..
Araw-araw kasi siya pinupuntahan nung babae at pinagluluto pa ng pagkain.. Eh meron siya talaga girlfriend nun.. Pero ayun nga nabuntis niya yung hindi niya gusto..
Pinagbigyan ng mama ko.. "O sige mag-stay ka muna dito pero hindi kita kinukunsinte sa ginawa mo.. Dito ka muna para makapag-isip-isip ka.."
Ayun after 1 month, umuwi ng Iloilo pinanagutan niya yung babae na nabuntis niya.. Masaya ba ang Tito ko? Syempre hindi nung una.. Kapag nalasing siya umiiyak siya..
Pero ngayon, naka-pito na silang anak.. [emoji1787][emoji1787][emoji1787] Ok na ba yung Tito ko? Oo naman, wala na siyang episode na umiiyak sya.. And yung naasawa niya na Tita ko ay isang matiisin na babae.. I think natutunan siya mahalin ng Tito ko..

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Masama na ba ang tao na tinutulungan mag flirt ang babae sa lalaki na gusto niya.. Kahit alam na balak pikutin yung lalaki? I don't know.. Maybe yes, maybe no.. Bahala na lang sa makakabasa yung tingin nila na intention behind the help..

[_Cathy_]

diyan nagkamali madami babae kaya naging single mom

akala nila pag nabuntis sila di sila iiwan ng lalake

but that's exactly why a lot of men leave -- they only wanted s#x they didn't plan on becoming a father

One reason kaya my friend fell for the guy kasi pareho sila na gusto na magkapamilya. What I don't know is if that's the guy's modus, making women fall for him by saying that he wants to have his own family. Kaya tingin ng friend ko IF she gets pregnant hindi talaga iiwan ng guy yung anak nila because he wants a child. SIngle Mom din kasi yung sister niya kasi siguro wala siyang takot maging single Mom, she wants a child so bad. Between the two of us, ako dapat yung desperate na since I am older than her, pero naniniwala kasi ako sa science and that I am fertile

This.

But also, they might resent you even more if they found out that you wanted to make them pikot. As in it was a real strategy to get pregnant and use the kid to make the guy feel guilty so he will end up staying with you. Its devious, manipulative, elementary, naive and at worst discards the child's well being all for the hope that you can hook a guy.

I mean what kind of sick foundation is this for a relationship? Not only between your friend and the guy, but between your friend and her unborn child.

Again... P A T h E T i C. You are her friend. Slap some sense into her .

I dont know her but have really low regard of her already. Makes my blood boil at her stupidity , childishness, and selfishness.


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She does not plan to pikot naman. She told me kasi na she is so in love with this guy nga na she wants to have s3x with him a lot (to satisfy him na rin) and if she gets pregnant, okay lang. This came as a shock to me because I know we share the same values (against PMS). We also don't believe in contraceptives so there is really a chance for her to get pregnant. I did tell her the legal implications but she does not mind. I also told her how she would feel about society's view of her (dalagang ina) Wala na rin daw siya paki She won't force the guy to marry her naman but more on she is HOPING that he will. SHe wants a child so bad na talaga. I don't know, maybe it's our age kasi pinagdaanan ko din yan kay crush (s3xual peak)

Yes, may mga ganyan ding mga lalaki.. Dadayain ang safe s3x sa mga gf nila kasi inatake ng insecurities ayun unplanned pregnancy.. Pikot din yun..
Sa case ng friend ni Ms. Cathy, mas nakikita ko yung pain nya sa mga past relationships niya kaya siya nauwi sa ganyang decision..
Pero who knows.. May mga successful naman ang marriage kahit dahil sa "pikot".. Endless possibilities..

I really feel for her, sobrang kawawa. She wasted 10 yrs of her life with a man that took her for granted. Kaya tuloy ngayon kahit konting attention from a guy tuwang tuwa na siya, he made her drop her standards so low. Tapos sakin siya humihingi payo kasi men treat me well daw, e hindi ko rin naman alam kung bakit. Maybe I give off a damsel in distress vibe LOL. She is one of the kindest women I know talaga, yung minsan sa sobrang bait maiinis ka na kasi even when people take advantage or betray her e i justify pa rin at naghahanap pa rin ng good side

tama

may edad na ung friend ni Cathy di na susunod sa payo yan

she has already made up her mind the guy is the One

actually di siya naghahanap ng payo

naghahanap siya ng kakampi -- ung magsasabi sa kanya malaki ang chance maging sila nung lalake

ung magsasabi sa kanya interesado ung lalake even if there are few signs

I feel kinda bad for telling her na I think the guy may be talking to other girls and I also told her straightout that I think he isn't interested in her anymore pero ang tanong niya sakin is how to make him interested again

And so tsikoteers, let us help her? hahaah! Though napaisip ako sa sabi ni MissX na baka nga jerk yung guy? I hope not. BAsta payo ko sa kaya not to initiate messaging the guy kasi nahahalata na patay na patay siya. Mabait yan friend ko, kahit sinabihan ko low EQ at walang pride for texting the guy e hindi pa rin nagalit sakin haha

And what did I say? Let her be. Gawin niya kung anong gusti niya it's her life bakit mo ba kasi pinoproblema buhay niya?

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Because she is a good person and she is my friend and I want her to be happy. Kapag close friend ko ang babae, best believe that she has a kind heart

Hahahahahaha ok ito ah Sir Ninja.. [emoji23]
Very good [emoji1303]
Yun lang din kasi iniisip ko, wala naman din mapipikot kung di naman papatulan.. Tito ko kasi, kapatid ng mama ko napikot yun.. Sinubukan niya takbuhan yung babae sa Iloilo, nagpunta dito sa bahay.. Iyak siya sa mama ko kasi hindi niya gusto yung babae..
Sabi ng mama ko, "Ang tanda mo na.."
"Bakit mo kasi pinatulan, eh alam mo na"..
Araw-araw kasi siya pinupuntahan nung babae at pinagluluto pa ng pagkain.. Eh meron siya talaga girlfriend nun.. Pero ayun nga nabuntis niya yung hindi niya gusto..
Pinagbigyan ng mama ko.. "O sige mag-stay ka muna dito pero hindi kita kinukunsinte sa ginawa mo.. Dito ka muna para makapag-isip-isip ka.."
Ayun after 1 month, umuwi ng Iloilo pinanagutan niya yung babae na nabuntis niya.. Masaya ba ang Tito ko? Syempre hindi nung una.. Kapag nalasing siya umiiyak siya..
Pero ngayon, naka-pito na silang anak.. [emoji1787][emoji1787][emoji1787] Ok na ba yung Tito ko? Oo naman, wala na siyang episode na umiiyak sya.. And yung naasawa niya na Tita ko ay isang matiisin na babae.. I think natutunan siya mahalin ng Tito ko..

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Masama na ba ang tao na tinutulungan mag flirt ang babae sa lalaki na gusto niya.. Kahit alam na balak pikutin yung lalaki? I don't know.. Maybe yes, maybe no.. Bahala na lang sa makakabasa yung tingin nila na intention behind the help..

PIkot success story lol. I think sa older gen mas marami pikot success stories pero sa Gen X and younger baka malabo na, kasi sa kanila nga kasal na naghihiwalay pa or normal na yung buntis bago kasal. Gosh, hinding hindi ko gagawin yan sa anak ko, na sadyain na illegitimate siya

ULS, may kilala tayong ganyan diba? hahaha

[uls]

She told me kasi na she is so in love with this guy nga na she wants to have s3x with him a lot and if she gets pregnant, okay lang

how can she be so in love with a guy she never met?

di lang yon, they barely talk on the phone and messaging lang

she's in love with an image or illusion she created in her head

iniimagine niya magkakapamilya na siya

anubayan wala sa tamang pag iisip ung friend mo

[misseksaherada]

Though napaisip ako sa sabi ni MissX na baka nga jerk yung guy? I hope not.

Na-off topic na pala ako kanina.. [emoji28]
Balik tayo kung serious ba yung lalaki or nakikipaglaro lang..
He is flirting with your friend kaya may green joke, may babe at may anak pa kunwari.. Pero nothing serious about that.. Walang meaning, pa-fall lang kung uubra sa girl.. Online dating yan kaya ano pa ba ang need i-expect.. Pang-kilig (sakin cringeworthy yung ganyan, ano yan high school.. excuse lang sa matatamaan ulit.. Sa iba mapapa-seen zone sa ganyan)..
Nakikipag laro? Malaki ang possibility dun.. Hindi natin alam kung ano napag usapan nila sa 2 months bakit parang na-inlove na agad ang friend mo Ms. Cathy..
Pero straight to the point na.. Too early para sabihin na serious yung lalaki and willing to commit sa stranger.. Kahit nga ata "consensual s3x" parang hindi na mangyayari kasi nung nag-green joke yung guy sinabihan ng friend mo na "uncomfortable siya".. baka dun na-confirm nung lalaki na hindi pang fubu yung babae, serious type.. Kaya ayun seen zone..
In short, serious ba si guy?
No. Ang layo sa katotohanan!!!!!!

[shadow]

And what did I say? Let her be. Gawin niya kung anong gusti niya it's her life bakit mo ba kasi pinoproblema buhay niya?


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[shadow]

She's a weirdo.


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[_Cathy_]

She's a weirdo.


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Nang gugulo ka lang dito Bakit nga weird? Weird na ba to want to have her own family so bad. I did ask her bakit biglaan nagmamadali na siya, sabi niya early 30s na feel na niya na she wants to settle down na talaga. Pareho naman kami pero wala pa ko sa level na mag dating app at okay lang mabuntis out of wedlock. Sana matauhan na siya

[Gumusut_Amige]

ito lang masasabi ko ms cathy... iwasan nya muna yung feeling close sila ng guy!

[H1Tman]

^kung serious yung lalaki, ang sasabihin will you marry me. Hindi let’s start a family. [emoji1787]


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[_Cathy_]

how can she be so in love with a guy she never met?

di lang yon, they barely talk on the phone and messaging lang

she's in love with an image or illusion she created in her head

iniimagine niya magkakapamilya na siya

anubayan wala sa tamang pag iisip ung friend mo

I don't fault her for being inlove with a guy she never met. It happened to me na rin, my first love I met when I was 14, over the phone, sa mga born 70s and 80s normal pa yan, may common friend kayo tapos tanungin ka kung okay lang ba ibigay number mo etc. This first love of mine, we would talk everyday and he introduced me to his barkada na nga over the phone and the same with me. He's from QC and though he was driving na (he was 3 yrs older than I am ata) wala naman chance for us to go out since I was not allowed to date pa at that age. We've said our I love you's, we've talked about how his family will accept me dahil hindi ako Chinese LOL! We were each other's first kiss

Difference lang sa friend ko she is 36 or 37 na ata, not sure basta older than 35 and the guy is 40, but what I experienced, we love the same way no matter the age. I was as crazy for crush as I was in my teens. Saka with this guy kasi dating app, hindi naman yan kai siao pero may mutual friends so alam niya naman na he is for real and not a poser

Sa tulfo nga ang daming tanga na never pa na meet nagapadala ng pera, bibili kotse or bahay or nage engage hahaha! Though I expect my friend to be wiser, after all Paulinian siya from Grade 1 ata and she works in a foreign bank Maputi naman siya at malaki boobs pero she always tells me hindi siya ligawin

^kung serious yung lalaki, ang sasabihin will you marry me. Hindi let’s start a family. [emoji1787]

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Puro biro biro nga lang yung guy na kung magka anak sila, na fall naman agad friend ko. The guy just said in general na at his age na he has everything he want na, family na lang kulang, and my friend wants na siya yung gustuhin ng guy to start a family

[shadow]

However you dice and cuts it... A weirdo.


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[misseksaherada]

Makipag flirt lang muna siya Ms. Cathy without expectations.. Wag muna mag hope ng anak.. I-enjoy nya na lang muna ang pakikipag flirt.. Tutal nasa dating game siya, pag-practisan niya muna si guy.. Trial and error..
Huwag maging marupok..
Masasaktan lang siya kapag hindi sumakto sa expectations niya..

[ray_noel]

Makipag flirt lang muna siya Ms. Cathy without expectations.. Wag muna mag hope ng anak.. I-enjoy nya na lang muna ang pakikipag flirt.. Tutal nasa dating game siya, pag-practisan niya muna si guy.. Trial and error..
Huwag maging marupok..
Masasaktan lang siya kapag hindi sumakto sa expectations niya..

Oi may ganun pala misseks... napractisan siguro ako dati kaya ako nasaktan... [emoji1787][emoji1787][emoji1787]... mostly ang naging gf ko ako yung first nila, now i know....

Pero infairness sa friend ni ms cath, may pagka weird nga yung mind nya... or she’s just too innocent...

Well, if thats what make her happy let her be...

Masaktan kung masaktan because our pain is an indication to look inward. It gets us to think about what we truly desire to experience and feel.


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[misseksaherada]

Oi may ganun pala misseks... napractisan siguro ako dati kaya ako nasaktan... [emoji1787][emoji1787][emoji1787]... mostly ang naging gf ko ako yung first nila, now i know....

Di ba nga Ray, kapag hindi ka binibigyan ng time kailangan mag-move forward na.. Ang sinisend kasi na signal nun, hindi committed sayo yung tao.. Kapag wala na ibang efforts, hanggang ganun na lang yun.. [emoji28][emoji12][emoji1787]
Mr. Casanova ng tsikot.. [emoji1787][emoji1308]hindi naman ibig sabihin na ikaw first nila nag-practice lang.. hindi lang talaga nag-work.. dun tayo sa gasgas na kasabihan, "it takes two to tango"..
Parang nagkaroon pala ng negative connotation yung "practice"..
practice = manloko / manakit ng damdamin / no intention to commit into relationship.. Hindi ito ang ibig kong sabihin..
Nabanggit ko lang yung "pag-practisan nya muna si guy" kasi parang hindi sanay yung friend ni Ms. Cathy sa flirting stage.. Nag-overthink na siya na magkaka-anak nga sila dahil sa mga sinabi din ni app guy.. Kaya naisip ko na mag-practice muna siya makipag-interact/makipag-flirt.. pati na din sa iba pang guys na nasa dating site/app.. madi-discover nya na may pattern.. Hahahahahaha [emoji23]
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Masaktan kung masaktan because our pain is an indication to look inward. It gets us to think about what we truly desire to experience and feel.

Ok lang din ang magka-experience at masaktan.. Pero dapat sa bawat chapter nagma-mature at natututo.. May mga tao na kahit nakailang relationships na, mahaba man or maikli.. Hindi pa din nila alam kung ano ang magwu-work sa kanila para magkaroon ng healthy relationship..

[ray_noel]

Di ba nga Ray, kapag hindi ka binibigyan ng time kailangan mag-move forward na.. Ang sinisend kasi na signal nun, hindi committed sayo yung tao.. Kapag wala na ibang efforts, hanggang ganun na lang yun.. [emoji28][emoji12][emoji1787]
Mr. Casanova ng tsikot.. [emoji1787][emoji1308]hindi naman ibig sabihin na ikaw first nila nag-practice lang.. hindi lang talaga nag-work.. dun tayo sa gasgas na kasabihan, "it takes two to tango"..
Parang nagkaroon pala ng negative connotation yung "practice"..
practice = manloko / manakit ng damdamin / no intention to commit into relationship.. Hindi ito ang ibig kong sabihin..
Nabanggit ko lang yung "pag-practisan nya muna si guy" kasi parang hindi sanay yung friend ni Ms. Cathy sa flirting stage.. Nag-overthink na siya na magkaka-anak nga sila dahil sa mga sinabi din ni app guy.. Kaya naisip ko na mag-practice muna siya makipag-interact/makipag-flirt.. pati na din sa iba pang guys na nasa dating site/app.. madi-discover nya na may pattern.. Hahahahahaha [emoji23]
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Ok lang din ang magka-experience at masaktan.. Pero dapat sa bawat chapter nagma-mature at natututo.. May mga tao na kahit nakailang relationships na, mahaba man or maikli.. Hindi pa din nila alam kung ano ang magwu-work sa kanila para magkaroon ng healthy relationship..

Teka lang misseks, nasubokan mo na yung tinder na sinasabi nila? Dun ka nag prapractice ? Hehehe... joke!

Baka ma swipe mo si kags, hehehehe... pero di ka type nun, mga cougars hilig yata ni kags...

Last break up ko is when she said na study first muna daw siya... after that, hindi na din ako nanligaw... happy life naman ako now, i think yung guy parang same kami ng phase, yung pag meron gusto eh di meron, if wala then wala... Nag lapse na yata chance ng guy para sa girl...

Parang merong list si guy and time frame...
1
2
3
4
5
And so on....

Pag tapos na time sa isang girl, move on na sa next...

Pero si girl, parang hidni pa rin naka move-on kung bakit siya ginanun ng guy kaya hoping pa rin and todo effort para mapansin... which is i think meron din ganun na type ng girl, the more you make ignore them the more eager sila sayo...

Hanep gwapo problem si guy!!!


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[misseksaherada]

Teka lang misseks, nasubokan mo na yung tinder na sinasabi nila? Dun ka nag prapractice ? Hehehe... joke!

OT: Na try ko na Tinder mga 5 years ago siguro yun, saglit lang.. At ang nakakatawa nakita ko guy friend ko dun na married na.. ni swipe ko nga, tawa kami nagkita kami dun.. Hahahahahaha [emoji23] inasar ko nga, pampalipas oras daw.. Mga lalaki talaga..
May mga lalaki dun na naka-premium kahit di mag match pwede mag-message.. Nakalagay na nga sa profile ko ayaw ko may tattoo at foreigner pero lagi foreigner o di kaya may tattoo yung masipag mag-message.. [emoji28] Kaya sinukuan ko na, hindi sakin magwu-work Tinder..
Na-engganyo ako mag-try kasi yung guy friend ko dun niya na-meet yung gf niya, fiance niya ngayon at ikakasal na soon..

[shadow]

He found out na weirdo, kaya ayaw na nya yun babae.


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[shadow]

Weirdo alert! Guys if you ever encounter ganitong babae. Kahit easy *** pa yan run the other way. Not worth it.


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