Have you have been cheated-on in a relationship?

[empy]

^heps sorry...i didn't intend to talk bad about your wife

pero sa experience ko talagang sa loob ang kulo ng mga religious/convent school/all girl Catholic school educated types :naughty2:

[hot_chick27]

oo e. hirap tanggapin pero talagang nangyayari yun. nung nalaman ko i immediatelybroke up with him. well, masakit pero kinaya ko naman and told myself na sya naman ang nawalan and darating ang time na hahabulin nya rin ako hehehe....honestly...til now he's hoping na maging ok kami ulit. No way! once is enough!

[uls]

monogamy doesnt work. Humans are polygamous by nature.

10 politically-incorrect truths about human nature
read # 2 http://psychologytoday.com/articles/...622-000002.xml

and #4 explains why many low-status muslim men are violent... coz they dont get any ***... coz the women go to high-status men.

kaya madami pinay OFWs nire-rape sa Middle East. Coz the men there are *** starved.

[liquid_blue_08]

hi mga sir, share ko lang sana yung story ko regarding this topic...hihingi na din sana ako ng tulong kung pano ako magmomoveon, hirap po kasi.


here it goes.

live in na po kami ng girlfriend ko (for 3++ yrs) for 1 year(oct 07-oct08). start po kami magwork oct 2007, nagdecide na po kami maglive in since malayo yung place namin sa work. both our parents agreed pero ciempre mahirap na paliwanagan ang nangyari. were still 22 that time at bagong grad pa lang. Although tutol ang parents namin at first eventually nag give in na din sila. so first 2 to 3 months of living together seems like a fairy tale for both of us. sobrang exciting bawat day kasi nagagawa na namin yung mga gusto namin. magkasama na kami, na kaming 2 lng.

During this time, dito po naglabasan lahat ng masasamang ugali ko, kapag nag-aaway kami lagi ako nagmumura, namumura ko cya, minsan nagkakaroon ng konting pisikal na confrontation kaming dalawa ng gf ko. nasasaktan ko cya kapag napapasobra ng higpit ang kapit ko sa kanya. feeling nya hindi cya appreciated sa relationship namin. at yung emotionally battered daw cya sa kin. in short, naging immature ako nung naglive in kami. hindi pa siguro ako handa.


then came may 2008, nakipagbreak po cya sa kin. ginawa daw nya yun para magbago ako. para marealize ko yung mga maling ginagawa ako. Pero kahit nagbreak kami magkatabi pa rin kami matulog, may mga intimate moments pa rin kami kaya kampante ako na maaayos pa namin dahil nga hindi naman cya nawala sa piling ko.

during june 2008, nagdecide po kami na lumipat ng apartment. Nagdagdag po kami ng 2 housemates. parehas lalaking kaofficemate namin. 2 bedroom yung house so sabi ko ok lng kasi hiwalay pa rin naman yung kwarto sa may privacy p rin kaming 2. yung isang guy na housemate namn sobrang naging ka close nung gf ko. cya yung parang tinuring nyang "kuya" kapag nandun sa bahay. sa isip ko kahit nagseselos ako sabi wala lng to dahil iniisip ko nun hindi naman cguro aagawin sa kin to dahil kilala naman ako at alam naman nya na kahit break kami ng gf ko eh pinipilit ko anamng magbago para sa sarili ko. MInsan na-tsismis sila sa office namin dahil nga sobrang close nila. tinanong ko yung gf ko noon kung meron nga bang dapat pagtsismisan. sabi nya wala naman daw magkaibigan lng sila nung guy at sobrang close nga lng nila dahil nga magkakahousemates kami.

aug-sept-oct 2008, im still trying to get back to her at ayusin sana yung relationship namin pero napansin ko na unti unti ng lumalayo sa kin yung gf ko. minsan lumilipat cya sa kabilang kwarto para doon maglaro ng online game kasama nung lalaki. nagiging sobrang seloso na ako dito kasi nga parang may nafefeel ako na meorn na. pinagaawayan namin lagi yung about sa pagseselos ko. sinasabi ng gf ko na wala naman daw.
dumating yung oct 25. narealize ko na sa wakas lahat ng kasalanan ko sa kanya at inamin ko sa kanya lahat ng pagkakamali ko. sinabi ko sa kanya na gustong gusto ko talaga magbago. na gusto ko cya na makasama ko.

dumating ang october 26, nabasa ko sa email nya sa isang friend nya na nagfafall na cya sa guy. na parang napapamahal na nga cya.
e2 po yung email nya kumuha n lng ako ng ilang parts

"cant help myself na ma-fall in love sa kanya.
and to my surprise, ganuon din pala sha.
its a puzzle tlg sa aming dalawa kung paano kami
nagkakasundo. In the first place, physically,
exact opposite kami ng mga gusto namin. "

nung nabasa ko po yung email, sobrang sakit. ang ginawa ko kinausap ko po yung lalaki, tinanong ko kung meron n nga. sabi nya wala naman daw. friends lang daw sila nung gf ko. saka wala naman daw cya ginagawa na move para manligaw.humingi ako ng pabor sa kanya na sana bigyan me ng chance na makapagbago at ipakita na gf ko na mahal na mahal ko pa rin cya. nag-agree po ciya, nagkamayan pa kami. dahil dun nagtiwala ako sa kanya at sobrang tinuring ko talaga cya kaibigan.


two weeks po ako na umaasa na mapapansin ng gf ko yung mga pagbabago ko at realization ko. close p rin sila nung lalaki ng mga panahon iyon pero di na ko nagseselos dahil nga nakausap ko na yung lalaki na wala naman talaga.nagtiwala ako dun.


nov 3. nahuli ko po sila sa kwarto namin na magkayakap at naghahalikan. nagtago kasi ako sa cabinet namin para isurprise yung girl dahil may dala nga 12 white roses para magsorry sa kanya. sakto nung pagpasok nila ng kwarto at paglabas ko ng cabinet nakita ko sila na naghahalikan. sakit nung nakita ko. gusto ko na mawala n lng sana nun at mamatay. di ko kinaya, nag-iiyak ako dahil hindi ko matanggap na magagawa sa kin ng gf ko yun at nung tao na tinuring kong kaiabigan. isa pang katangahan na ginawa ko is lumuhod sa harapan ng lalaki, nagmakaawa ako na sana wag n lng yung gf ko, sana iba n lng. hindi naman ako naging masama sa iyo para gawin mo ito.tanging sinabi lang nya sa kin is" Hindi ako Diyos, wag mo ko luhuran!" ... after that night umalis na ako ng bahay namin, nakitira muna ko sa kaibigan ko. nung the next day bumalik ako ng bahay para nga kunin na yung mga gamit ko. mga damit ko. napansin ko po na yung mga gamit nung lalaki nasa kwarto ko na. yung unan nandun na din, magkatabi na agad sila matulog. may nahalungkat din ako na sulat ng gf ko para sa guy na...
parang late aug aearly september ay may nangyayari na sa kanilang dalawa na intimate...sakit ulit. kasi all this time ay niloloko na pala nila ako....tanggap ko naman na nagbreak kami ng gf ko dahil nga sa masamng ugali ko. hiningi ko na sa kanya ng psensya yun.pero ang hindi ko matanggap is yung pagtatago nila sa kin at pinagmukha akong tanga sa loob ng bahay.na pag wala pala ako sa bahay is may ginagawa silang milagro.


hindi ko ngayun alam kung pano babangon. pag nakikita ko yung ex ko. hindi ko maiwasan masaktan. kasi nga mahal na mahal ko cya. hindi ko rin makuhang magalit sa kanya. pero dun sa lalaki kapag nagkita kami ulit baka hindi ko na mapigilan sarili ko. napagtanto ko na sobrang tanga ko sa mga pagmamakaawa ko sa kanya. sana kasi ibang tao n lng, sana hindi n lng yung tinuring kong kaibigan....





pasensya na po kung nashare ko ito. nadala lang ako sa topic eh saktong sakto kasi..salamat po...

[jappy]

ang haba ah.
been there, done that.
i stopped communicating. i moved away. took another course to make me busy. now im way happier now. just smiling when i remember what happened to me.

to move on, move away, literally.
that will lessen the chance for you to see each other, the guy and the girl.
get yourself busy. the more you dwell on the past, the more it will haunt you down.
do anything just to forget those marked memories in your mind.
one day you will wake up and just smile and be glad that it happened to you now, when you are not yet married.

[liquid_blue_08]

ang haba ah.
been there, done that.
i stopped communicating. i moved away. took another course to make me busy. now im way happier now. just smiling when i remember what happened to me.

to move on, move away, literally.
that will lessen the chance for you to see each other, the guy and the girl.
get yourself busy. the more you dwell on the past, the more it will haunt you down.
do anything just to forget those marked memories in your mind.
one day you will wake up and just smile and be glad that it happened to you now, when you are not yet married.

hi sir jappy, yun nga po ang mahirap sa akin. same company kami nung guy at nung ex ko. so bound talaga kami magkita kita 3. just last week magkasama kami ng ex ko dahil sa isang proj at tingin ko mauulit ulit yun. hindi naman ako makakapag resign basta basta dahil may bond ako sa company(1 year pa). ang hirap. sakit lng na cya nakikita mo na parang wala lang. parang ang dali lang sa kanila.

[ghosthunter]

*liquid blue

All I can say is: I have been there and have done all that. If she is not willing, you cannot do anything about it. It just comes a time you have to accept that you have "lost". It's time to pickup the pieces of your life and move on. It will be painful at first, especially with everything still fresh in your memory but it does get easier with time.

Just remember NOT to reminisce too much about your time together. And if you do end up crying about your past, give it a good cry to let it out. You'll feel better after.

[ghosthunter]

hi sir jappy, yun nga po ang mahirap sa akin. same company kami nung guy at nung ex ko. so bound talaga kami magkita kita 3. just last week magkasama kami ng ex ko dahil sa isang proj at tingin ko mauulit ulit yun. hindi naman ako makakapag resign basta basta dahil may bond ako sa company(1 year pa). ang hirap. sakit lng na cya nakikita mo na parang wala lang. parang ang dali lang sa kanila.

It might be prudent to ask your manager if you can be assigned with another group or something to separate you and your ex-gf. But I doubt if that would be given any consideration because most managers would just say be professional at your job and don't let your personal matters affect your job.

[jappy]

hi sir jappy, yun nga po ang mahirap sa akin. same company kami nung guy at nung ex ko. so bound talaga kami magkita kita 3. just last week magkasama kami ng ex ko dahil sa isang proj at tingin ko mauulit ulit yun. hindi naman ako makakapag resign basta basta dahil may bond ako sa company(1 year pa). ang hirap. sakit lng na cya nakikita mo na parang wala lang. parang ang dali lang sa kanila.

tsk tsk
hirap nga yan.
like what sir ghosthunter said, malabong ilipat ka ng project.

if im in your shoes, ill make up some excuse to get out of the company, hoping that the bond would not be charged at me.

while you are still there, you will really have a hard time moving on.

sa girls kasi pag wala na, wala na talaga.

[ghosthunter]

tsk tsk
sa girls kasi pag wala na, wala na talaga.

well, most of the time. Sometimes, they come back (if they just broke up with you and not for another guy).

God! I wish I could turn back the clock to a few years ago and go back to a certain ex-gf of mine who asked me to take her back. I should have said yes.

[jappy]

well, most of the time. Sometimes, they come back (if they just broke up with you and not for another guy).
God! I wish I could turn back the clock to a few years ago and go back to a certain ex-gf of mine who asked me to take her back. I should have said yes.

true true.
for me if tapos na, tapos na.
especially after one would go thru pursuing the ex pa din after what happened.
kung ayaw na talaga, eh di ayaw ko na din.
hehehe.

[_Cathy_]

To my knowledge, I've never been cheated on. It's probably because I give my suitors a hard time so I feel like they don't wanna risk something that they've invested a lot on. I also don't cheat because I break up with the person if I feel like the relationship is failing already. It's like I have no peripheral vision when I am in a relationship. I only see my BF. If I start getting attracted to another guy then I would know that something is wrong with our relationship na.

liquid_blue_08, are you from the US or the Philippines? I am so surprised at how liberated your GF is. I think she's not worth all your heartaches for the ff reasons:

1. You broke up already and yet she sleeps with you. Ano yun? Parang Mylene Dizon and Paolo Paraiso? It's bad enough that girls are having *** before marriage, it's even worse that girls are having *** outside of a relationship. It's an indirect admission that *** is all physical like hunger or thirst.

2. She's not supposed to be sleeping with you in the first place - you're too you young and you're not married.

3. She has no respect for you. Given that you broke up already, it's very inappropriate for her to sleep with someone who lives in the same house as her and her EX.

4. She made a fool out of you. What your ex did to you, she could easily do it again with the guy she's with right now.

5. She has no remorse. Imagine, the night that you humiliated yourself in front of them by crying and kneeling, they even had the stomach to move in at one room on the same night. Wow dude, pang Lovingly yours ang storya mo.

I am not saying that you are not at fault. Kasalanan mo rin kasi minumura mo siya at sinasaktan. Honestly, I could take a lot of heartaches from my BF but the minute that he lays a finger on me, I am gonna break up with him right there and then. Some things are just unforgivable.

Eto na lang, pareho kayong nagkasakitan. It seems like your relationship is doomed. Time to move on. Charge it to experience. You're young, you're educated and you're independent, you will easily find another girl. Maybe even better than your ex.

[vito corleone]

i have never been cheated on. . .as far as i know

[liquid_blue_08]

To my knowledge, I've never been cheated on. It's probably because I give my suitors a hard time so I feel like they don't wanna risk something that they've invested a lot on. I also don't cheat because I break up with the person if I feel like the relationship is failing already. It's like I have no peripheral vision when I am in a relationship. I only see my BF. If I start getting attracted to another guy then I would know that something is wrong with our relationship na.

liquid_blue_08, are you from the US or the Philippines? I am so surprised at how liberated your GF is. I think she's not worth all your heartaches for the ff reasons:

1. You broke up already and yet she sleeps with you. Ano yun? Parang Mylene Dizon and Paolo Paraiso? It's bad enough that girls are having *** before marriage, it's even worse that girls are having *** outside of a relationship. It's an indirect admission that *** is all physical like hunger or thirst.

2. She's not supposed to be sleeping with you in the first place - you're too you young and you're not married.

3. She has no respect for you. Given that you broke up already, it's very inappropriate for her to sleep with someone who lives in the same house as her and her EX.

4. She made a fool out of you. What your ex did to you, she could easily do it again with the guy she's with right now.

5. She has no remorse. Imagine, the night that you humiliated yourself in front of them by crying and kneeling, they even had the stomach to move in at one room on the same night. Wow dude, pang Lovingly yours ang storya mo.

I am not saying that you are not at fault. Kasalanan mo rin kasi minumura mo siya at sinasaktan. Honestly, I could take a lot of heartaches from my BF but the minute that he lays a finger on me, I am gonna break up with him right there and then. Some things are just unforgivable.

Eto na lang, pareho kayong nagkasakitan. It seems like your relationship is doomed. Time to move on. Charge it to experience. You're young, you're educated and you're independent, you will easily find another girl. Maybe even better than your ex.

hi maam cathy_for_you, thanks po sa advice nyo. Yep, im from the Philippines. Yung ex ko po kasi, medyo wala talaga cya pakialam sa sasabihin ng iba. Wala na din nagawa yung parents nya nung nagpaalam kaming 2 na maglilive-in since nasa ibang bansa sila.

[Horsepower]

liquid_blue_08:

She's gone. Accept it. Move on. It's nice to be free.

Look at the bright side. At least, you now have a chance to get it on with a new girl. Now that you are renewed from your old evil self and refreshed, it's time to move on with a fresh girl.

You should thank the guy who took your ex. She's sleeping with you and sleeping with other guys??? That guy will one day realize his mistake too. hehehe

It's good that you did not marry her. She could've done the same while you're married and it could've been a lot more complicated. At least, everything can be dropped now and it's fine.

Next time, don't ever physically abuse women and don't even entertain the idea of having other guys with you and your girl in the same house. Having other girls is fine, just not men.




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[jappy]

liquid_blue_08:
Next time, don't ever physically abuse women and don't even entertain the idea of having other guys with you and your girl in the same house. Having other girls is fine, just not men. >

hehehe.
tama. pwedeng girl housemate, pero wag guy housemate.

[liquid_blue_08]

liquid_blue_08:

She's gone. Accept it. Move on. It's nice to be free.

Look at the bright side. At least, you now have a chance to get it on with a new girl. Now that you are renewed from your old evil self and refreshed, it's time to move on with a fresh girl.

You should thank the guy who took your ex. She's sleeping with you and sleeping with other guys??? That guy will one day realize his mistake too. hehehe

It's good that you did not marry her. She could've done the same while you're married and it could've been a lot more complicated. At least, everything can be dropped now and it's fine.

Next time, don't ever physically abuse women and don't even entertain the idea of having other guys with you and your girl in the same house. Having other girls is fine, just not men.




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thanks sir horsepower. i'll follow your advice. siguro masyado ko nagtiwala talaga dun sa lalaki. sobrang bait kasi yung pinakita nya nung una. mahirap talaga magtiwala.

next relationship ko, di ko na gagawin yung mga pagkakamali ko nung previous relationship. ill be more mature in handling things.

[ab_initio]

yes it happened to me,ex ko cheated on me before na supposed na kasal namin ,it was good blessing in disguise kung hindi kasi sya nagloko hindi ko mameet ang wifey ko,10 years na kami and i'm damn sure hindi niya ako niloloko.

and to my ex?last i heard nagtitinda ng gulay kasama ang mga anak

tsk...sana her finances would improve...personally, i don't wanna hear of an ex living a miserable life...naaawa pa rin ako...

[ab_initio]

xxx you will easily find another girl. Maybe even better than your ex.[/quote]

true. i was once in a relationship which was supposedly exclusive...only one party was compliant...unluckily, twas me...unfortunately too, i got the most pain...i wasn't ready...my love was so pure then...my friends found me to be too beautiful and too successful for him...but love is blind as they said, i took him...divested myself of the opportunity of meeting up with few good men, all in the name of one basic rule: EXCLUSIVITY.

BUT JUST LIKE WHAT mA'AM cATHY_FOR_YOU said there are non negotiable, non derogable, and unforgivable circumstances and one of them is when a partner two timed the other....i prevented myself from the effects of collateral damage...renewed my self-worth, embarked on important things, like, higher education...

true enough...i am now pursued by a man who is better than my ex...it comes with a bonus, the parents are so fond of me...and they make me feel even more beautiful and happy...i guess it will take sometime for me to assent to the exclusive nature of a romantic relationship...

my point is, the men/women that we're gonna meet just keep getting better everyday...so don't get yourself stuck in the memories of a cheater...move on...spread your wings...keep going...fly, if you can...soar high...life is a great adventure...and greater if shared by someone we love, greatest if that love is reciprocated. hirap kaya magmahal ng leech...wehehehe

BE HAPPY...

[ab_initio]

When my wife gets more than I do, I consider that cheating, so I demand compensation in return likewise, if she thinks I got more than she did, I'd be more than happy to return the favor...

But to answer the original question, I'm glad I've never experienced that. My wife, is also my first and only GF ;)

wow!!! galing ah!!!