Question for married guys

[jusipus]

Ano mga nararamdaman nyo nung malapit na kayong ikasal, say 8 months before the wedding? Marami din ba kayong naiisip like malapit nang mawala ang freedom mo at gusto mo nang sulitin yung natitirang time before you get married? O kaya naman medyo nagdadalawang isip ka kung gusto mo nga talagang mag-asawa?
hehe.. ingat sa pagsagot baka masabon kayo ni misis..

[shadow]

nope! never once you have decided to settle down wala na dapat isipin ng ganyan, kung naiisip mo yan then don;t get married yet hinde ka pa ready.

[Memphis Raines]

What do you mean by losing your freedom?

Freedom from dating other women?

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[Gerbo]

The first step towards marriage is COMMITMENT...if you're not into it even if you think its the RIGHT WOMAN...why bother?

Marriage requires a certain level of maturity, responsibility, and willingness to subsume yourself for the greater good...remember it is a PARTNERSHIP. If your are not ready, DON'T enter it yet....

MINDSET bro...kung naghihinayang ka for such things as "loss of freedom" then you are not prepared. Kasi at that stage, it not about taking a glimpse back but rather looking forward to a new beginning...

[redorange]

Nope never felt I was going to lose my freedom. As others have said if you're still thinking about that then you are not ready to get married. Marriage isn't losing freedom, it's gaining a lifetime partner and responsibilities for your future family together. Marriage isn't a 50/50 proposition but a 100% proposition for each partner. Honestly I don't even remember what it was like being single and neither do I miss it.

[jusipus]

What do you mean by losing your freedom?

Freedom from dating other women?

.

Hmm.. masakit tanggapin pero kasama na yan, hehe. Pero nung di pa naman kami engaged, hindi na ko naging interesado sa ibang babae maski hanggang ngayon.

[iho250]

nope! never once you have decided to settle down wala na dapat isipin ng ganyan, kung naiisip mo yan then don;t get married yet hinde ka pa ready.

+10!!!

[jusipus]

From the day that i propose till the first few months ng planning, 100% sure na ko na gusto ko na magpakasal. Pero habang lumalapit na, nararamdaman ko na yung pressure from family tsaka yung mga tasks ng pagpeprepare na nakakapagod.. Lately ko nalang naisip lahat to (haha.. pasensya na kung may na-offend ako). Kung baga, bigla ko na lang natatanong sa sarili ko if i'm really prepared for this. Di rin naman kasi natin maalis minsan lalo na sa mga major decisions na magkaron ng second thoughts. Pero syempre mahal ko yung girl and i don't wanna end up with someone else, kaya lang pag kinasal ka, narealize ko na hindi lang yung babae pakakasalan mo kundi pati yung family nya and your new obligations.

[woohoo]

From the day that i propose till the first few months ng planning, 100% sure na ko na gusto ko na magpakasal. Pero habang lumalapit na, nararamdaman ko na yung pressure from family tsaka yung mga tasks ng pagpeprepare na nakakapagod.. Lately ko nalang naisip lahat to (haha.. pasensya na kung may na-offend ako). Kung baga, bigla ko na lang natatanong sa sarili ko if i'm really prepared for this. Di rin naman kasi natin maalis minsan lalo na sa mga major decisions na magkaron ng second thoughts. Pero syempre mahal ko yung girl and i don't wanna end up with someone else, kaya lang pag kinasal ka, narealize ko na hindi lang yung babae pakakasalan mo kundi pati yung family nya and your new obligations.

No offense, bro, please bear with me...

Sa mga tasks sa preparations na iyan, sa tingin ko lang, ha, tinatamad ka lang kaya ka nagkakaganyan. Hindi ka naman nawawalan ng gana or what. Ganyan kasi ako noon, e.

Maraming nagsasabi, kapag medyo hindi kasundo ng isang tao ang mga potential in-laws niya, na "hindi naman sila ang pakakasalan mo, iyung siyota mo lang." Technically, they're right. But in reality, they're veerrry wrong... Lahat talaga ng miyembro ng pamilya niya, kailangan mo siyempreng pakisamahan. Kaya dapat talaga, kasundo mo sila lahat, or at least kaya mong sikmurain, hindi iyung gustung-gusto mo silang sikmuraan.

Now, if you're really having second thoughts, I suggest na huwag mo na munang ituloy. Kaso, sa ganitong postponement, kahit gaano pa ka-valid at ka-considerate sa pag-iwas sa isang hinaharap na masalimuot ("love, mabuti nang i-postpone na muna natin, kesa naman magpakasal tayo tapos lagi na lang tayong mag-aaway o lagi na lang kaming mag-aaway ng nanay mo/baka maghiwalay lang tayo, <insert your noble reason here> etc..."), masasaktan pa rin ang GF mo. You're in between a rock and hard place, bro.

Siguro naman nawawala naman ang mga agam-agam mo tuwing masisilayan ng mga mata mo ang love mo... kapag ganun, haaay, huwag nang mag-alinlangan pa...

[aga_cruz]

8 months before kasal o 8 months before sakal hehehehe

[dikosoulheart]

agree...............

[calix0305]

keyword: R E S P O N S I B I L I T Y

(esp. if you have kids...)

[Retz]

better stay single. mahirap ang married life ung salapi o sweldo mo mapupunta na sa mga gamit ng baby niyo.

[uls]

^^

syempre gagastusan mo anak mo yan eh

[1D4LV]

Ano mga nararamdaman nyo nung malapit na kayong ikasal, say 8 months before the wedding? Marami din ba kayong naiisip like malapit nang mawala ang freedom mo at gusto mo nang sulitin yung natitirang time before you get married? O kaya naman medyo nagdadalawang isip ka kung gusto mo nga talagang mag-asawa?
hehe.. ingat sa pagsagot baka masabon kayo ni misis..

nung malapit na akong ikasal? wala lang. actually, during the day of my wedding, which was around 6 pm, i slept up to 5 pm.

nagwala ako 5 years after getting married. hahahahaha. ngayon super straight na.

[v6dreamer]

Married is a serious business.

Long before you ask that woman to be your legal wedded wife in sickness and in health for ritcher or poorer till death makes you apart. Knowing that you are ready w/o any hessitation.

So forget that badabing badaboom in your mind and pronounce it men and wife.

[empy]

i don't know...by that time i had already lost free will and the power of independent thought :uptight:

[jusipus]

i don't know...by that time i had already lost free will and the power of independent thought :uptight:

Hmm.. sounds interesting

[Hanren]

One sign that you're ready for marriage is when you don't feel bothered about your freedom anymore. In other words, pag nagsawa ka na sa tinatamasa mong kalayaan sa buhay, its time that someone and something take control of your life.

[XTO]

Oo naisip ko naman lahat ng iyan, me isip ako eh But since 27 y/o na rin ako when I got married, di na rin maaga and I’m so keyed up to settle down and start a new and straightforward life. We’ve been dating for 8 years and that was enough not to be bothered where I’m going after the wedding.