Do men nowadays prefer a "good" girl or a "bad" girl?

[niky]

RE: kids: I know some "good girls" who are unmarried with kids. In fact, it's the "good girls" who often have the accidental pregnancies due to inexperience.

Me? If I were still on the market, I'd consider a girl with a kid. With a disease? Errh.............................................. .........................

Bad girls are nice to play with, but when you get older and ready to settle down, you want someone who isn't going to suck your wallet dry from clubbing just about every night.

[ghosthunter]

RE: kids: I know some "good girls" who are unmarried with kids. In fact, it's the "good girls" who often have the accidental pregnancies due to inexperience.

so true... you can get pregnant even if you do it just once.

Me? If I were still on the market, I'd consider a girl with a kid. With a disease? Errh.............................................. .........................

Bad girls are nice to play with, but when you get older and ready to settle down, you want someone who isn't going to suck your wallet dry from clubbing just about every night.

Funny thing was that there was a time when I did consider a girl who had kids already. She was the kind of girl I wish I met before she had her kids. She was so kind, gentle, hard working and had a smile that made me forget my problems. (Hay! tama na yung reminicing!!)

[uls]

RE: kids: I know some "good girls" who are unmarried with kids. In fact, it's the "good girls" who often have the accidental pregnancies due to inexperience.

Me? If I were still on the market, I'd consider a girl with a kid. With a disease? Errh.............................................. .........................

Bad girls are nice to play with, but when you get older and ready to settle down, you want someone who isn't going to suck your wallet dry from clubbing just about every night.

RE: Kids

Sorry di ko na explain. Having a kid or kids doesnt make a single girl "bad"

what makes her undesireable for me (if gagawin ko sya asawa) is that... ummm... di ko anak ung anak nya e.

yoko magpalaki ng anak ng ibang tao.

Baka pag laki ng bata aawayin lang ako nyan kasi di ako biological father nya, at gusto nya hanapin ang kanyang tunay na tatay.

selfish no?

hehe

[badsekktor]

nice replies! the way i see it, guys love girls whether "good" or "bad" they just tend to be choosy when choosing a lifetime partner and each guy has different opinions on this matter so for choosing the right guy, i guess just like the saying goes, "try and try until you succeed" applies here. some women are lucky to have only one trial (or one bf) but some dont. what we advice here are just mere suggestions but you have to decide by yourself. just weight your consequences and evaluate them according to what is important to you...

[FullThrottle]

IMO, I think you should ask yourself these questions before you go out with them:

1.) How trustworthy are these guys who are asking you out? What’s their background? How long have you known them? Have you heard any bad feedback about them—especially from other women?
2.) Is this the first time you’re going out with them? If not, how did your last outing or gimmick go? Any red flags indicating that they just want to get inside your (or any other girls) pants?
3.) If this is the first time you’re going out with them, just how badly do you want to go to the beach with them? Why are they insisting on going to the beach on a January, in the first place? Can’t they wait until summer and just go to Tagaytay now or somewhere else where you don’t have to be there overnight?

In the end, it’s really up to you. You’re an adult now (at least based on your user name), so you have to learn how to make sound decisions. Just remember that most decisions, once done, cannot be undone, and you’ll have to live with that for the rest of your life.

If you really badly want to go to the beach with them, I suggest that you ask a very close male friend or better yet a trusted male cousin (the bigger, the better) to go along with you. Check out their reaction once you tell them that you’ll be bringing a male friend/cousin along. If they sneer at the idea, that’s a major red flag. It just means that their intentions are not good, since your male companion will surely jeopardize their plans, if they have one. If this happens, I think you should think twice before going out with them, regardless of where the venue is. But if after telling them that and they tell you with all honesty (you’ll have to see if their body language is consistent with what they say) that it would be great to bring others along, even if they are male companions, then I think that’s a good sign that they have good intentions and you’ll be assured that these are the types who know how to respect women. But that doesn’t mean you should let your guard down.

About your other question—what do other men really, really want in a girl? IMHO, the answer is no different in what a woman really, really want in a guy. Regardless of whether you’re a man or woman, one will always want for a partner someone who can be trusted, someone who will be faithful to you, someone who will respect you (regardless of your past), someone who will bring out the best in you, and someone whom you can grow old with.

My two cents. Sorry kung mahaba ha, baka lang kasi makatulong to kahit konti.

[blitzmage_89]

well. Good girls are nicer but those maria clara types I really find them soooo boring. Bad girls naman ayaw ko hindi nagaaral , puro landi at lalaki lang alam. No thanks...

The best ay yung balanced. Good girl as in nagaaral , maalaga pa rin sa pamilya at friends at medyo bad girl na kung may kalokohan game , nakikiflow minsan, mahilig mangasar at magbiro, at hindi nerd hehe that stuff. Yun cguro favorite ng any guy out there

[pup2]

Trust me, there is no need to envy 'bad girls'. Few, if any, will treat them seriously and when their looks pass and the guys' hormones go lower, they could well end up as 'bilasang isda'. Being a good but friendly girl, methinks, is the way to go.

[shadow]

I was talking to my girl na friend last night and she said that now there are no good and bad girls since girls are more liberated. I need to know from a man's point of view what you think. Why? Let us be honest, men want a girl to have "fun" with. Is that true? What do men really, really want in a girl? Kasi my mom told me men will respect a "good" girl. Do they really?

yes, it's true, but there are two kinds of fun the clean and the "dirty" funs..hehehe

I am a working college student and some guys want me to go out with them to the beach but now with all the internet scandals and cellphone scandals takot ako. Not that I plan to do anything too "bad".

what do you mean by not doing anything TOO bad? your planning to fool around but not do it all the way? if your not planning of doing anything pala then no reason to be afraid of any scandals diba?

the important thing is if your not comfortable of the crowd who was inviting you then don;t go...and correct me if I'm wrong, your the only girl that they have invited? masama nga ang plano nila pag ganyan...and are you close to them ba..I mean barkada mo ba sila or something...?

long story short, ikaw lang makakaalan kung meron masamang balak yun mga tao...I think your old enough to know that...

Also if I did a bad mistake once will it mean a guy will look at me differently? Yun lang.

some will, but majority won't. the important is to be honest with your future partner

[ghosthunter]

I am a working college student and some guys want me to go out with them to the beach but now with all the internet scandals and cellphone scandals takot ako. Not that I plan to do anything too "bad".

Just keep your clothes on and everything will be fine. Even a two piece bikini still counts as clothes.

[HIFI]

Quote for X-men:

Dr. Jean Grey: Girls flirt with the dangerous guy, they don't bring him home... they marry the good guy.

Wolverine: I can be the good guy.

Dr. Jean Grey: Logan, the good guy sticks around.

[ricasantos18]

Just keep your clothes on and everything will be fine. Even a two piece bikini still counts as clothes.

I know. But there is a story around about a girl in school who was drugged and before she knew it nasa mga celphone na cya. Anyway, I will keep my guard up.

The boys today act malaswa. Have they always behaved like that?

If I may ask. Would anyone here take advantage of a drunk woman? Or even have drugged a woman for you know what? Because it does happen. Someone said you can even make date rape drugs by just surfing the net.

FYI, there will be another girl going with me so I hope we look after each other.

[Flagg]

One of the worst products of Catholicism is the notion that any type of ***uality is dirty. Yes, even within the confines of marriage. For those who need proof, kindly reference the 'unclean' lists in Deuteronomy.

IMO, this fosters a very unhealthy attitude towards *** in any Christian environment. I personally know several people, both male and female, who ended up unhappy when they finally did get to know the total self of their life partner.

I believe it is healthy to engage in gratuitous behaviour, but in a mature and responsible fashion. This simply means:

1.) Gratuitous means it is gratifying to yourself. Do not be forced or duped into doing anything you don't want to do.

2.) Always assure mutual protection of one's self and one's partners. This is a requirement since, unfortunately, our society tends to penalize 'accidents'.

IMHO, there are no 'good' or 'bad' girls. Only those who have 'issues' and those without.

Back to your problem: just 2 girls with x number of boys who you don't really know? Take a raincheck.

[ricasantos18]

Thanks Flagg.

Are you speaking from experience regarding the 2 girls x number of boys warning? Or do you prefer reversed Your avatar gives you away.

You must be the one they warned me about here.

j/k

[Flagg]

Haha. I don't force people to chill with me. Either they do or they don't. Mostly, they do.

[ghosthunter]

Thanks Flagg.

Are you speaking from experience regarding the 2 girls x number of boys warning? Or do you prefer reversed Your avatar gives you away.

You must be the one they warned me about here.

j/k

if you don't feel comfortable about the situation, then it would be best NOT to push through with the trip.

[Type 100]

One of the worst products of Catholicism is the notion that any type of ***uality is dirty. Yes, even within the confines of marriage. For those who need proof, kindly reference the 'unclean' lists in Deuteronomy.

IMO, this fosters a very unhealthy attitude towards *** in any Christian environment. I personally know several people, both male and female, who ended up unhappy when they finally did get to know the total self of their life partner.

I believe it is healthy to engage in gratuitous behaviour, but in a mature and responsible fashion. This simply means:

1.) Gratuitous means it is gratifying to yourself. Do not be forced or duped into doing anything you don't want to do.

2.) Always assure mutual protection of one's self and one's partners. This is a requirement since, unfortunately, our society tends to penalize 'accidents'.

IMHO, there are no 'good' or 'bad' girls. Only those who have 'issues' and those without.

Back to your problem: just 2 girls with x number of boys who you don't really know? Take a raincheck.

Hanga ako sa post na ito. Well written, Flagg.

Ika nga ni Ricky Lo..."If you can't behave, at least be discreet." ;)

[ghosthunter]

I know. But there is a story around about a girl in school who was drugged and before she knew it nasa mga celphone na cya. Anyway, I will keep my guard up.

FYI, there will be another girl going with me so I hope we look after each other.

Typical safety stuff if you are traveling with people you don't know well. Like in bars, avoid drinking stuff from pre-opened containers like an open can of coke or beer. Best to open your own drinks like bottled water or softdrinks so you know its "clean". If you left your drinks at a table, best NOT to drink it anymore and open a new can/bottle.

If you know any of the girls, try to buddy up to watch each other's back. This goes that both of you should avoid drinking any alcohol for the duration of the trip.

If I may ask. Would anyone here take advantage of a drunk woman? Or even have drugged a woman for you know what? Because it does happen. Someone said you can even make date rape drugs by just surfing the net.

True, the method and ingredients for making a "date rape drug" is available on the web but getting certain ingredients does require a bit of creativity. Most of the time, people take advantage of drugged/drunk women simply because they can't score otherwise. Since we all know men go think of *** pretty often (every few seconds), having an easy "target" is hard to passover if the guy's morals are weak.

The boys today act malaswa. Have they always behaved like that?

Unfortunately yes... but most boys tend to grow out of it. The biggest difference today is the easy access of **** as compared to a few years ago where people have to use cassette tapes (beta/VHS) or magazines (playboy/hustler) to get their fill of nude pics/vids.

[freefries]

napa log-in tuloy ako ng wala sa oras, visit lang sana ako sa site and basa basa lang but when i read this thread..i ended up writing this...,

At TS....siguro you want some justification if ever na may mangyari nga sa pagsama mo sa beach sa mga "so called friend" mo...actually, nagtataka ako sa yo, if you doubted their intention, why on the heck are you going with them????...

Being liberated is ok, as long as you give yourself with the one you love...not giving yourself with anybody who wants your company for the sake of *** only...magkaiba yun...

I have a friend also, a real bad girl...i don't know what's in her mind..her husband is an OFW and she still seeing someone..oh no, not only one but anyone who can give her satisfaction in bed...aghhhh...and the only reason she gave me is..."friend, di ko kaya ng walang s*$ for two years"...sh%t...gusto ko talaga syang sabunutan eh...pero buhay nya yun, as a friend pinagsasabihan ko sya...but of course, she is the one who is responsible for all the decision she made...

In the end, you're the one who make your life not the other way around, hwag sisihin na mahirap ang buhay or bakit ganun ang tadhana kasi ikaw lahat ang may gawa nyan....so be carefull...

[badkuk]

The boys today act malaswa. Have they always behaved like that?

hmm...i'm tempted to say that the younger generation today are a bit too wild compared to mine...but that wouldn't be fair to the matitino ones.

kung ganun nga ang impression mo sa boys...you may need to change the crowd you're hanging out with

If I may ask. Would anyone here take advantage of a drunk woman? Or even have drugged a woman for you know what? Because it does happen. Someone said you can even make date rape drugs by just surfing the net.

FYI, there will be another girl going with me so I hope we look after each other.

if you even have the slightest suspicion that this could happen with the crowed you're hanging with...run, don't walk, away.

to answer your question...i think Ludacris said it best:

"We want a lady on the street,
but a freak in the bed"

:D

[Jun aka Pekto]

Many girls I know who've had kids early and accidentally are actually "decent" girls... those who aren't as ***ually experienced and who had their kids by accident.

While I think there are loose women who cheated on their significant other...... I think those women are smart enough to have some kind of protection from an unwanted pregnancy.

I'm inclined to think most single moms are those girls naive enough to give it all hoping Mr. Right will stick around.

I knew of one single mom in the Philippines long ago who was a neighbor of my aunt in Cavite. She had to endure catcalls from drunks at the street corner and the incessant gossiping about her. Most everyone thought she was a slut or hooker. Even my own relatives talked behind her back.

Me, I was in the second year of my stay in the Philippines and still learning much about the place. I never shared the same attitude as my relatives. I would always say "Hi" and wave whenever I saw her.

One weekend morning, I was at the front porch of my aunt's house and saw the single mom sweeping their yard. I walked over and said hello. Then I asked her flatly why the street toughs were taunting her. She said her baby's father ran away.

At that time, I was probably a bit too young to fully understand. In any case, the cat calls and gossiping got bad enough that her whole household moved away back to the province. I never did find out what happened in the end. Hopefully, she found Mr. Right and lived happily ever after.

It just goes to show the stigma associated with making a "mistake".

Add: Last I remember, she smiled. But, it was easy to tell her spirit was broken. Such a shame. She was quite pretty too.