a soon to be father in need of help!

[Orido]

Hi guys! Im not new here but I always visit and sometimes post here at tsikot.. guys I need ur help! my gf for 4 years is 5 months pregnant.. my family and her family know already of our situation at first they are mad at first but we face them and put our whole family together and talked to them and we all agreed that getting married is not the answer to our problem.. Im just starting with my first job and my GF is finishing her studies as a medtech.. Guys I need advice on what to expect and what to do.. right now all is under control and we are managing our problem because of the grace and mercy of god! what Im more afraid of is the expense that will cost me when its time for my GF to give birth.. I dont to ask for money anymore to my parents or her parents.. I want to be responsible for my baby! Im not running away from my duty and responsiblity as a Father..
so please guys need help! any advice is greatly appreciated! thanks!

[_Qwerty_]

may time ka pa para mag ipon.. may mga hospitals na mura lang naman ang charge.. kung normal delivery eh pwede na sa ward dahil uuwi naman agad.. expect siguro mga 10T+ kung normal.. ngayon kung ceasarian.. medyo mahal yan.. depende sa hospital at kung ward, semi private, private ang rooms.. yung bunso ko 5 years ago.. naka 60T.. normal lang kaso suite kasi yung room tsaka kasama ligation/repair ni misis..

[Memphis Raines]

Hi Orido! Long time no hear. I think you were the one who posted something about your Hi-lux?

Anyway, you have a very good thing going for you; you're gonna be a Daddy! Nothing more cool than that I tell you. Sa umpisa lang mahirap siguro ang situation mo, don't worry about money that you will be eventually needing for the little champ. God gave you this situation and believe me, He will be with every step of the way.

I admire your take charge attitude most punks cower away from responsibilities like this but you stand your ground firmly like a real man.

Perhaps you can also ask Doc Otep for advice on your preparations for the baby like hospitals with friendly rates that he personally knows. Nothing like help from a fellow Tsikoter .

[Tsuper Man]

May Health Card/HMO ba parents ng GF mo? Baka under her parents' umbrella pa sya at pwede i-cover yun ng Medicard or any health card. Since you have a job now, baka pwede mo sya isama sa healthcare nyo. I'm not sure nga lang talaga kung pwede yun.

[cutedoc]

and prepare not only for the hospital bills also save some after the baby is born, the milk, the vitamins, and construct a proper time management, you will need it very badly=)

[falken]

All I can say is save,save save. Get rid of all unnecessary expenses, because it's spending time from now on, from ultrasounds to check ups to vitamins for the soon to be mom. After that, you have check ups and vaccinations and milk and vitamin expenses for the newborn too.

[_Qwerty_]

most healthcares don't cover pregnancies as it is not a sickness.

since you are working, you can use your 7 days paternity leave, also you can use philhealth, just tell the hospital that you will be availing of philhealth.

[Elroi]

since ginawa nyo yan, tama lang na panindigan nyo and face the consequences of your actions.. i assume na legal age na kayo pareho.. besides sa advice given above, maghanap na din kayo ng ob-gyne na titingin kay GF. mas maganda kung may monthly check-ups. ask nyo na din kay doktora if they offer a package (all expenses from pre-natal to birth) para alam mo na kung magkano kailangan mo.

planuhin nyo din kung ano gagawin after giving birth. will you be living together? if yes, titira ba kayo either sa inyo or in-law's?

dami pa dapat gawin, umpisa pa lang yan.. hehe

[HIFI]

Having a child with your GF is not enough reason to get married. I've seen this too many times....all ended in frustration and regret.

You have to be ready for a married life before getting married. Mukhang hindi ka pa handa.

Giving it some time. Being responsible, is a commitment of your own, not a piece of paper (marriage). No matter what happens, ikaw pa rin ang tatay.

As for the "gastos", ask your parents....borrow the money and promise to pay them back every centavo with interest when you're able.

[VtEC]

wow, first born to be.congrats bro.first thing to do is marry her so you can add her on your dependent or else i dont think you can use it (philhealth or company health insurance) not unless kaya ng sahod mo yong bill.by doing so, hospital bill will not be that expensive. second, save every cents you can save.pinakamagastos na part lang naman ng magkakababy ay yong supply ng milk, diapers, vaccines pero the best magkababy.

[blue1108]

congrats din and i commend you for taking responsibility. i think i know how you feel kase i just went thru almost the same situationn, only difference is we were planning to get married when my GF got pregnant... i now have a 3 week old baby boy, sarap ng feeling bro....

agree ako kay sir VTEC, it will be best if you guys do get married. kahit private wedding lng. next year pa sana kmi pakasal kaso a lawyer friend advised me that madami masyado hassle pag lumabas baby nyo na hindi kayo kasal. kasama na dun yng hassle sa gastos dahil hindi mo magagamit kahit anong healthcard pati philhealth o SSS benefit. then if you eventually do decide to get married, gagastos ka na naman to be the legal guardian ng anak mo...

san ka nga pala located sir, maybe we can help you look for a hospital that can give you a good package in your area...

goodluck sir, hopefully your blessings continue. in the end it will be worth it!!!

[Orido]

Thank you all for your advices and support! sa totoo lang excited na ako na natatakot! even my parents are all excited! they even plan on tearing down walls in our rest house in bicol to accomodate a new play ground and garden for my baby! and my future in laws are also doing renovations to accomodate my baby!.. everyone really is helping us thats why Im so thankful to them.. when it comes to vitamins, ultrasounds, and monthly check ups I make it a point to have a budget for that and not ask from our parents anymore.. when it comes to the OB GYNE I have my aunt who is an OB GYNE at st. lukes to be our doctor.. and FYI she is also the one who brought me out to this world and to all of brothers,sister, and each and everyone of my cousins.. I am saving like crazy right now.. although I have more than enough I still try to cut expenses as much as I could.. Im targeting about 60 - 70K is it enough??.... I want the best for my baby I already put on hold and cancelled most of my plans for my baby, I just wish to be the best father and that she comes to the world healthy and alive..

[Orido]

sir memphis thats me alright! thank you for remembering.. last year we were suppose to get a Hilux but got a FORT instead.. hehehe!! but my dad is still looking at the HILUX or DMAX for next year!..

[onat_1]

welcome to daddyhood!congrats sa iyo,masasabi ko na ang pagiging ama ay masarap na mahirap,kahit pagod ka na tangal lahat yan pag kasama mo na ang anak mo,hindi mo pa feel yan sa ngayon pag labas niya saka mo lang malalaman.goodluck orido.

[pinoy_cal]

Congratulations! Welcome to fatherhood!

Sounds like your making good plans and being very responsible. Ituloy mo lang ang ganyan na pag-iisip and your baby will be well taken cared of. There's just one thing that has not been mentioned yet. Everyone is talking about the cost and the baby needs. Don't forget also the needs of your gf, especially the emotional support. I have a 9 month old son too. My wife went thru so many different emotional stages before and after birth. Watch out bro and just dole out a lot of patience and understanding to your gf.

[oldblue]

panoorin mo yun nine months movie ni hugh grant. benta mo fortuner mo tapos bumili ka ng van. may pamilya ka na hehehe

[jaspi11]

syempre lahat tayo gusto natin tayo ang the best daddy in the world para sa mga anak o magiging anak natin. kaya tama yang gingawa mo etsa pwera lahat ng di makabuluhang gastos.....70k is not enough....i mean....ipon ka pa talaga para sa future ng anak mo..goodluck

[drey]

Maganda commute ka nalang. Nakakaboost ng ipon. If you have a Fortuner/Hilux, if okay lang sayo, sell it then buy a more economical car/smaller car. Total kayo lang at future wifey mo + your baby ang dapat mag-enjoy. The extra cash for selling your truck. I-invest mo na like business para ma support mo sila sa gatas/clothing ng baby etc.

Provide the best environment for your child. Dont forget the vaccines. Ano pa ba... Basta provide your family the basic needs, security and safety, and love and support. I believe being a good father is an unending process.

OT: Kaya ayaw ko magkaGF. Gusto ko ako lang muna mag-enjoy sa buhay.

[chua_riwap]

Pag-aralan mo na ring magpalit ng diapers, at yung gigising in the middle of the night para mag-prepare ng milk para sa baby mo. Kahit sabihin mong may Yaya or maid kayo na gagawa nyan, sometimes mapipilitan ka ring gawin ito.

[Galant_VR_94]

Welcome to the world of fatherhood. I commend you for facing your responsibilities to your GF and future child. Being a dad is a lot of work. A child needs constant guidance and attention. You must be able to prioritize your time wisely. Iwas muna sa mga night outs with the barkada. You also need to set your goals straight now that you have someone who depends on you. Start saving up for your future....iwas muna sa mga gastos na pwede namang iwasan. As for your job, try to do it to your fullest para walang problema. Congratulations uli sir! Welcome to the club!