I'd go for the CR-V considering both have the same fuel consumption(?) My C99 CR-V back then M/T was doing around 7.5km/L. I think the Optra has similar fuel mileage figures (heard it was a gas guzzler for a compact sedan).
For the CR-V you get more interior space and higher ground clearance than your usual sedan.
It is appartent that most of the factors are for the CRV yet your heart is leaning for the Optra because of the looks. Up to you to follow your heart or your mind.
Performance=CRV
Looks=Optra
Reliability=Tie. CRV kung same age--kung hindi pareho lang siguro
Resale=I suggest you check buy and sell. I-track mo din yung Optra how fast the depreciation is from year to year. CRV would've won this too kaya lang I'm not sure kasi it's older by a whole 5 years.