Thank you all for the replies and I appreciate the advises. It seems that most voted the newer albeit 2nd hand Fortuner.
The thing is me and the wife test drove the Fort and the Xpander yesterday and the missus was a bit disappointed in the Fortuners bouncy ride.

The Xpander GLS Sports however when we test drove it, she found it very comfortable.
I have explained all the pros of getting the Fortuner including the higher resale when it comes time to replace it.
Oh well, she doesn't seem convince with my explanations and argued that we aren't gonna sell it anyway for a very long time.. I have a feeling that the tall ingress of the Fort is the culprit because she was having a hard time climbing wearing an skinny jeans

Wife is only 5 feet so I was a bit smiling when she was climbing..
We will be test driving the Brv and Rush next, maybe next week so I still have a few days left to convince her. She was quite sold out with the Xpander while the agent was explaining all the features of Xpander.