What they don't tell you about the OFW life

[Monseratto]

'It isn't whining to speak about OFW realities, nor does it mean that they are ungrateful for their overseas jobs; it's simply a peek into our not-so-ideal lives'

Shakira Sison
Published 8:00 AM, May 22, 2014
Updated 7:44 AM, May 22, 2014

"Ang pangarap ko ay ang makapag-abroad. (My dream is to go and work abroad.)"

How many times have we heard this as someone's ambition? The fact that the Philippines receives over $20 billion in annual OFW remittances does not lie. Many of our homes are built and children's educations are funded by overseas money. To ambitious young people, it doesn't even matter what kind of work they end up doing, so as long as they are paid in a different currency. Landing a job abroad has become the ultimate dream, and the OFW life is associated with flowery images of success and prosperity.

But there are a few things they don't tell you about the OFW life; things that are often kept secret from those we leave behind.

1) It's not as pretty as it seems

Social media posts of gifts and balikbayan boxes, photos of travels and dining adventures – these make up less than a tenth of our real lives. Away from camera phones and the tags of our Facebook friends, it is far from being all glitter.

Nobody ever takes pictures of hard and menial work, long hours, or getting scolded by an employer. Nobody talks about the constant immigration struggle, or the fear involved in the life of an undocumented immigrant.

Cramped quarters and poor living conditions rarely make it to Facebook posts. We don't talk about bad bosses, layoffs, or the complete physical or emotional exhaustion overseas jobs guarantee.

Nobody puts in a status update that they came as a nurse or a scientist but actually work as nannies. Nobody brags about being a tenured professor in the Philippines who works as a factory worker abroad.

We do what we can and we keep the drama away from home, even if our lives aren't exactly what we imagined. At least our families can imagine otherwise.

2) It's a lonely life

Especially in countries where a worker doesn't speak the language, our interactions where we can really be ourselves are limited to meetings with fellow Filipinos, most of whom are also busy with their own lives.

Moving to a new place always comes with displacement. And believe me, that good English that you boast about is no match to a particular region's version of English, especially when spoken fast. No matter how Americanized or how independent you feel you are, you'll always feel like you've been dropped overboard in cold water without a life jacket. It takes a while before you adjust and tread water on your own.

There will be a point where you'll want at least one person to know you well; you'll want someone of the same blood to be around you just to feel some kind of permanent bond. You'll want someone to recognize you on the street or look for you if you haven't passed by in a while. You'll wish someone would visit you just because they were in the neighborhood.

But nobody really does that, nor has the time. One has to make time to bump into someone they know, or simply get used to being invisible.

3) OFWs become banks

Whenever there's a financial need at home, the first person in mind is always the one who is abroad, believing that money is easy for OFWs to come by.

As an overseas worker, everyone seems to think you won the lotto simply because you work abroad. People ask for special favors or to fund their children's baptisms and birthday parties, or for loans for a new business, just because it's almost a given that you might have extra cash on hand.

Many OFWs ignore their ringing phones because they know that most of the time it's just someone asking for money. They wonder sometimes if money is all they're good for, especially when they're pressured to keep working abroad even if they've expressed their unhappiness in being away and their desire to come home.

4) Money is not endless

We forget that those who work in a place where a decent salary can be earned also have a higher cost of living and their own financial commitments. Many Pinoys go into debt because of these responsibilities and the ready availability of credit cards which easily trap the inexperienced consumer.

But rarely will an OFW admit that money is in short supply. They will borrow just to send money home, if need be. They will max out their credit cards to get their children the fanciest toys and clothes. Their reasoning is that if their loved ones can't enjoy the rewards of their efforts, why else would they make sacrifices in their lives?

Even if their children grow up seeing them just as a source of gifts and cash, OFWs will take that over nothing, and over coming home and not being able to provide.

5) You're always one step away from ruin

Especially when a worker doesn't have health insurance or government protection, each one of us is one serious illness or accident away from losing our livelihood, or becoming disabled without any nearby family support to care for us.

When we are sick, unless we have close friends or loved ones around, we usually have to just shake it off or ride out a cold or the flu. If we don't have sick days at work, we might actually work through our illnesses rather than lose the money we were going to earn that day.

There is always that fear of being one step away from disaster, and we take on those who rely on us and our income. We carry on anyway with crossed fingers and prayers because there are those who depend on us back home.

6) You'll wish you could give it all up and go home

Every OFW comes to a point where he or she just wants to drop everything and go back home. Sometimes the sacrifices, the loneliness and the challenges are simply too much to make up for being away.

But most OFWs have made enormous sacrifices to be where they are, and have amassed enormous debts just to be able to go abroad. It isn't uncommon for an OFW who has gone home to be pressured to go back abroad because of the unparalleled financial rewards. Many are stuck in cycles of debt and can hardly get by with their daily struggles, let alone think of a long-term financial plan.

Each OFW is thought of by their families as a savior – and it's very difficult to give it all up and let everyone down just because they are tired.

7) There's no place like home

Every Filipino who has been displaced and is stuck in a cycle of work and sleep longs for a return to simplicity and the lack of huge financial expectations.

For those who left children behind, no amount of money can replace that lost time, but they do what they can and what needs to be done for everyone else to survive.

It's hard to admit that it isn't always better on the other side. But the more we realize what is at stake when our friends and loved ones leave the Philippines for "a better life," it's important to see whose life is actually better, and what its cost is to relationships and families, as well as on one's long-term financial stability if they're not careful with their money.

It isn't whining to speak about OFW realities, nor does it mean that they are ungrateful for their overseas jobs. It's simply a peek into our not-so-ideal lives.

Maybe when OFWs speak up about their experiences, more Filipinos won't think of it as the ultimate goal. Maybe that could help fix the broken system back home rather than be satisfied with constantly sending our labor to other shores.

Are you an OFW? What realities have you had to face being away from home? Is a family member of yours working abroad? What is it like being left behind? Let's talk #BalikBayan talk. – Rappler.com

What they don't tell you about the OFW life

[macsd]

Buti nalang i was an expat

[_Qwerty_]

hindi na din ganon kalaki ang bigayan sa abroad lalo na sa middle east.. not unless top management ka.. yung mga nursing and construction job.. halos kikitain mo na din dito sa atin yung sweldo nila sa abroad.. ang hirap pa pag nasa abroad.. kalimitan nag su suffer ang naiiwang family dito.. lumalaki ang mga anak na walang nanay or tatay (sometimes both pa nga).. kaya hindi naaalagaan ang pag aaral..

well kahit hindi sa middle east.. yung mga friends ko sa Australia.. nahihirapan din.. karamihan kasi nang nag migrate don sa mga factories lang din nag wo work.. eh nagsasara mga companies ngayon don.. yung toyota magsasara.. tapos nagbabago ang policies kada nagpapalit nang prime minister.. magkakaron na daw nang bayad ang public doctors.. tapos tatanggalin na din yung study now pay later.. kaya namro mroblema din sila pano pag aaralin mga anak eh mahal din daw don.. kaya nagbabalak na lang umuwi ulit dito..

last weekend ko lang napanood yung movie na "ANAK" ni ate vi sa cinema one.. maganda panoorin para sa mga gustong mag OFW..

[xwangbu]

patigasan lang yan. pag me nagparinig na tulad ng "pahiram naman..."
eh no comment na lang.
nagbibigay na lang ako kung me sumobra sa OT pay
pero utang - u-tang*a nila na lang.

[ozcity]

.. yung mga friends ko sa Australia.. nahihirapan din.. karamihan kasi nang nag migrate don sa mga factories lang din nag wo work.. eh nagsasara mga companies ngayon don.. yung toyota magsasara.. tapos nagbabago ang policies kada nagpapalit nang prime minister.. magkakaron na daw nang bayad ang public doctors.. tapos tatanggalin na din yung study now pay later.. kaya namro mroblema din sila pano pag aaralin mga anak eh mahal din daw don.. kaya nagbabalak na lang umuwi ulit dito..

l..

OFW are different from migrants....mas mahal manirahan sa Pilipinas...kaya ako nag stay dito sa ausie hindi ko kaya yung cost of living dyan sa PH..

for $7 per visit sa doktor?..mahal ba yan?..para lang ako kumain sa mcdo ng happy meal...pag nagkasakit ka sa pinas im pretty much sure yung buong sahod mo the whole month ubos...

if you want to go abroad might as well bring your family and migrate..

pag retirement age ko na..uwi din ako sa pinas..

normal lang sa ausie na pag bago ang PM nababago policies..snay na kami dyan..atleast alam ko kung saan napupunta tax ko..


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[_Cathy_]

OFW are different from migrants....mas mahal manirahan sa Pilipinas...kaya ako nag stay dito sa ausie hindi ko kaya yung cost of living dyan sa PH.

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This so true! Pilipinas isa sa pinakamahal ang kuryente at internet na mabagal sa Asia, and to add insult to injury, the average wage is low. We pay so much for crappy service and consumer rights is almost non-existent in the Philippines. Pag nagkasakit ka dito at wala kang pera, we all know what happens. Ang mura dito sa Pilipinas bisyo

[asb75]

Hindi magandang tumira diyaan sa australia. Puro tax ang maeencounter ninyo halos wala kayong maiipon. Hindi niyo mabibili ang mga gusto na mga items such as smartphones, good quality clothes & etc. Mahal din kumain sa mga fast food chains. Kahit ganyan sa pilipinas at least makakapundar ka nang maayos na pangkabuhayan at maitataguyod mo nang maayos ang pamilya mo. Mga kaibigan ko nandoon gusto nang umuwi sa pinas.

[donbuggy]

2) It's a lonely life

No it isn't. Masaya ang OFW pag may kabit.

[confused shoes]

More than 10% of the Filipino population are OFWs. Everything has been told. Manhid lang talaga ang ibang mga nakikinabang sa mga OFWs or either mababa nga ang IQ.

[gutz_3110]

More than 10% of the Filipino population are OFWs. Everything has been told. Manhid lang talaga ang ibang mga nakikinabang sa mga OFWs or either mababa nga ang IQ.

madaming ganito sa probinsya, kapag ang OFW ay dumating, akala nila tagapagligtas. kung ang OFW naman ay single, o matandang binata/dalaga, lahat ng iminundar, ubos o kaya pudpod.

[erick_214]

What about kameng mga seafarers na nagwowork offshore? Seems like hindi kame pwedeng tawaging OFW since the descriptions are a bit off...

Kung hindi dahil sa mga OFWs 20-30 years ago eh saan ba pupulutin ang Pinas? If babalik lahat ng OFWs sa Pinas at wala nang remittances ngayon, gaano kaya kabilis magcollapse ang Pinas?

Grabe naman yung iba kung magdescribe sa OFWs mahahalatang may kasamang pait...

[cardict]

What about kameng mga seafarers na nagwowork offshore? Seems like hindi kame pwedeng tawaging OFW since the descriptions are a bit off...

Kung hindi dahil sa mga OFWs 20-30 years ago eh saan ba pupulutin ang Pinas? If babalik lahat ng OFWs sa Pinas at wala nang remittances ngayon, gaano kaya kabilis magcollapse ang Pinas?

Grabe naman yung iba kung magdescribe sa OFWs mahahalatang may kasamang pait...

Because some people think they're head above this ofw in terms oh education and status in life,our country for decades were ruled by by greedy politicians which drain the national coffers,that's why you and the likes katulad ko rin,napilitan umalis ng bansa kasi mga trabaho naka reserve na sa mga kamag anak at kaibigan ng mga buwaya

[Rob O. Bravo]

No it isn't. Masaya ang OFW pag may kabit.

true, kasi dati nasa Malaysia ako tatlo ang gf ko

[chua_riwap]

No it isn't. Masaya ang OFW pag may kabit.

yan yung pag nagbakasyon sa pinas, imbis na malungkot pabalik ng m.east, masaya pa.

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[NightRock]

Swertihan lang talaga ang pagiging ofw at diskarte sa trabaho aim for high hindi lang na dadala sa sipag yan

[asb75]

As an expat, Dito naexperience ang mga sumusnod sa middle east UAE delayed ang suweldo for 3-4 months dahil sa pangit na arab culture system, sa australia crab mentality nang kapwa filipino at na lay-off (redundant) sa trabaho dahil walang makuhang customer. Buti na lang awa nang diyos nakakuha ako nang maayos na trabaho ngayon sa isang maayos na bansa. Dito ko nakita na para kang iniwan sa tabi nang iyong mga kamag anak. Kaya ngayon hindi na ako masyadong nagiging close kahit kaninong relatives.

[chookchakchenes]

Dati nung 1980s bata pa ako ang alam ko sa ofw na lalake eh may bigote, nakamaong jacket, naka chicago bulls na cap, nakalong sleeve pero pilit talaga itataas yung kamay na umuunat kunyari para makita yung bracelet gold (Tonyo!!!!)

at higit sa lahat favorite na team sa pba barangay tagay....yuuccckkk..

Pag babae ofw (1980s) usually japayuki....(Chona!!!!)


Pero ngayon year 2014 nakakapagod na drama ng ofw. Sino ba nag-anak ng madami. Bakt ka nag-asawa.

[e2romo]

Isa sa pinaka mataas rin ang tax sa atin. Mas mataas kaysa 1st world countries.

Sent from the Twilight Zone...

[wezz_zzew]

Dati naiingit ako sa mga kakilala ko na may magulang na OFW dahil parang ang ginhawa ng buhay nila kumpara sa amin pero nalaman ko na tambak sila sa utang dito sa pinas tapos makikita mo lang sila na masaya pag nagpapadala na or umuuwi yung kamag anak nila sa phils. Totoo na mas madaling makapagipon sa ibang bansa dahil mahal ang mga bilihin at bisyo kaya instead na ibili mo yung pera, magtitiis ka na lang na umiwas sa mga ganung bagay. Sabi nga ng dati ko officemate na nasa Singapore, malalasing ka na daw agad dun sa isang bote ng beer dahil sa sobrang mahal, around Php 600.00++ yung isang bote ng pilsen. Eh dito sa pinas bili ka lang ng isa o dalawang long neck, kwentuhan na yun magdamag.

[ozcity]

Sabi nga ng dati ko officemate na nasa Singapore, malalasing ka na daw agad dun sa isang bote ng beer dahil sa sobrang mahal, around Php 600.00++ yung isang bote ng pilsen. Eh dito sa pinas bili ka lang ng isa o dalawang long neck, kwentuhan na yun magdamag.

pang sosyal yata yung iniinom ng officemate mo hehehehe..he can buy a bottle of red wine for $5 malamang tumba sya dun heheh


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