pagkamahiyain ng bata paano gamutin?

[Syuryuken]

5 yrs. old ng anak ko pero may pagkamahiyain paano ko kaya mababago yun o kelangan niya ng workshops para mabago ugali niya? Sa school ala namang problema siya ngang 1st sa K2 (pang umaga at pang hapon) . Kung maaalis lang yun pagkamahiyain niya malamang mas mag-improve pa siya.

[XTO]

IMO mag-i-improve pa yan pre pa habang lumalaki siya, iba iba talaga ang mga bata. Ang importante bright siya sa kanyang academics at hindi special child. Try to expose rin sa mga kalarong medyo bibo, diba isa lang siya?

Importante rin yung environment niya sa loob ng bahay baka sobrang tahimik. Likas kasi sa mga bata ang gumaya eh so malaking tulong yung exposure niya sa tulad niyang mga bata na me kakulitan. That way lalakas loob niyang gawin or gayahin ang mga kalaro niya.

[Taurus]

Di ba nagmana sa magulang? :peace:

My son is also on that same age bracket and I can see to him his shyness is starting building onto him. Lumalaki na kasi kaya he's starting to learn more things whether they are good or bad. Lucky for you that you don't need to assist him on his studies for he's bright, he might overcome this problem pag may nakilala na syang girl :inlove:

:doclove:

[shadow]

syur, wala man lang namanang kaunting kakapalan saiyo? :hysterical:

I think exposed mo sa mga tao, bka since only chind masyado kayong protective and I think isama niyo sa mga usapan niyong magasawa, I mean pa decide niyo siya ng sarili i.e. meron bibilhin sa grocery na ice cream siya ang papiliin niyo etc...and most importantly talk to her/him like an adult...

[Asus700]

as long as bright sya, medyo kaunti lang ang problema mo.

as they said expose your child to a lot of people. wala kayang experience yung anak mo that led to pagiging shy?

a good fatherly talk will also work wonders. tell your child there is nothing to be shy about, that he/she is good looking, bright, etc, in effect build his/her confidence.

mahiyain din kasi ako nung bata, talagang hindi ako humaharap sa tao, then later on i have met some schoolmates who became friends. and they kind of help me overcome shyness. (i did not have a father who can help me then, nasa abroad lagi eh).

[sboogie]

try nyo ipasok sa mga play/activity center. effective

[Syuryuken]

IMO mag-i-improve pa yan pre pa habang lumalaki siya, iba iba talaga ang mga bata. Ang importante bright siya sa kanyang academics at hindi special child. Try to expose rin sa mga kalarong medyo bibo, diba isa lang siya?

Importante rin yung environment niya sa loob ng bahay baka sobrang tahimik. Likas kasi sa mga bata ang gumaya eh so malaking tulong yung exposure niya sa tulad niyang mga bata na me kakulitan. That way lalakas loob niyang gawin or gayahin ang mga kalaro niya.

mag-isa lang siya, wala siyang nakakalaro ditong mga bata. medyo tahimik nga dito sa amin.... business district eh.

he might overcome this problem pag may nakilala na syang girl :inlove:

toink! girl po

syur, wala man lang namanang kaunting kakapalan saiyo? :hysterical:

I think exposed mo sa mga tao, bka since only chind masyado kayong protective and I think isama niyo sa mga usapan niyong magasawa, I mean pa decide niyo siya ng sarili i.e. meron bibilhin sa grocery na ice cream siya ang papiliin niyo etc...and most importantly talk to her/him like an adult...

abay nagmana sa mama niya eh kung sa akin nagmana yun baka araw-araw nasa guidance room

lagi naming isinasama sa grocery, department store etc. kaya lang pag may nagustuhan siya magtatanong muna sa amin kung pwede niyang bilhin. sinasabihan na nga naming pag may nagustuhan siya kunin na lang niya wag na niyang itanong sa amin.

wala kayang experience yung anak mo that led to pagiging shy?

yung exposure siguro sa ibang tao ang problema dito kasi halos walang makikitang bata sa kalye.

[landlord]

I think exposed mo sa mga tao, bka since only chind masyado kayong protective and I think isama niyo sa mga usapan niyong magasawa, I mean pa decide niyo siya ng sarili i.e. meron bibilhin sa grocery na ice cream siya ang papiliin niyo etc...and most importantly talk to her/him like an adult...

I totally agree.It's just a matter of kids being able and being allowed to express themselves properly and being asked for their opinions. Tignan mo sa states, kids are treated like adults, allowed to reason out and express their own opinion. Dito kasi,yung mga bata hindi pwede mangatuwiran (sasabihin bastos, sumasagot na) and bawal sumali sa "usapan ng mga matanda". Kaya "na cho chope".

[raine]

try mo isali siya sa mga activities na merong interaction sa ibang tao but siyempre masmaganda kasali ka rin para maincourage siyang magparticipate.

[mhelskie]

try to observe kung ano ung nakaka interes sa kanya bukod sa paga aral, like kung may sports ba syang nakakahiligan or what, then try to build on that interest, ienroll sa mga ibang activities, etc

yup, talking to a kid like an adult builts his/her self confidence, lalo na't nabanggit nyo na bright nman sya :D

[CVT]

syur, wala man lang namanang kaunting kakapalan saiyo? :hysterical:

I think exposed mo sa mga tao, bka since only chind masyado kayong protective and I think isama niyo sa mga usapan niyong magasawa, I mean pa decide niyo siya ng sarili i.e. meron bibilhin sa grocery na ice cream siya ang papiliin niyo etc...and most importantly talk to her/him like an adult...

OT:

Bro., unless you know syur personally, you can never tell....

I haven't met him, but have seen his entries here. However, I am reserving my opinion of our virtual buddy....

This is our virtual-self.... We are all good-looking, rich and flamboyant.... Our "other life"? No one can be certain....

4505:vader:

[jundogg]

exposure is the key. ihalubilo mo sa kids palagi para masanay makipag interact. sa umpisa mahihiya pa pero magaadjust rin in time.

psychological approach: never say na "oo mahiyain yan" to her as well to other people. mababakas lalo sa kanya na mahiyain sya if she keeps on hearing that,lalo na pag mismong parents ang nagsasabi.

when shopping or sa supermarket, let her get the things you'll buy like making her ask sa crew kung saang section yung ganitung bagay. tapos sa kanya mo ipaabot ang bayad sa cashier. doing those little things, mababawasan pagiging mahiyain nya. at madedevelop communication skills to other people young or old.

give positive and encouraging remarks para mamotivate maki-mingle with other kids/people.

[froshie1]

5 yrs. old ng anak ko pero may pagkamahiyain paano ko kaya mababago yun o kelangan niya ng workshops para mabago ugali niya? Sa school ala namang problema siya ngang 1st sa K2 (pang umaga at pang hapon) . Kung maaalis lang yun pagkamahiyain niya malamang mas mag-improve pa siya.

while eating at a fast food chain, you can ask him to get tissue at the counter and assure him that everything will be ok. repeat X times matututo din yan.

[CVT]

while eating at a fast food chain, you can ask him to get tissue at the counter and assure him that everything will be ok. repeat X times matututo din yan.

We used to do this, or let our child ask for condiments and it works....

4505:vader:

[wildthing]

Why not try to seek professional help from a child psychologist or a developmental pediatrician? bawat age level/group kasi dapat nagpoprogress ang tao.

Minsan kasi one part will be progressing faster (like social behaviour)....pero ang ibang part naman can slow down.

As such it would be best na ma-evaluate ang daugther mo so a possible remedy or therapy can be done properly.

Example ko nangyari sa akin:

My youngest kid was slow to speak (compared to his elder siblings at the same age)... pero grabe naman ang development ng motor skills and hand-eye coordination (almost a half a year advance for his age) nito.

We seeked professional help, and the doctor gave us good advises on the kid. He didn't went for therapy (the doctor was probably so busy she did not schedule us at all) pero sinunod namin ang mga pointers niya and even researched sa internet therapy-type procedures to follow or practice para maimprove yung problem niya. And true enough we saw progress on the speech skills niya after a few months.

[Cult Zero]

Why not try to seek professional help from a child psychologist or a developmental pediatrician?

is shyness an illness (psychological) na kailangan gamutin? or a stage na kailangan malampasan?

although i learned to deal with different people, it really takes a conscious effort on my part. minsan nakakaingit yun mga naturally "outgoing" people kasi spontaneous sila. madali gumawa ng conversation and people warm up to them more easily. on the other hand, i have to think everything i'm going to say or do over and over in advance especially if i am meeting someone for the first time just to make sure that things will go smoothly. nakakapagod rin pag minsan pero iniisip ko na lang kailangan ko lang gawin ito kung hindi walang mangyayari sa akin.

[wildthing]

^ actually, I was raised "OLD SCHOOL STYLE" -- papaluin ka lang pag ayaw mong sumunod sa utos magulang mo ... so kailangan alisin ang hiya pag-inutusan hehehe

pero sa ngayon kasi "physical pain" is often no longer used to "encourage" kids to grow... kaya naglabasan yung discipline ng dev ped... wherein they use several techniques (non violent most of the times) to help the timely development ng bata.

i guess the medical profession is "just too crowded" they had to have niche marketing and reposition themselves so that they become "marketable" .... grabe nga ang haba ng pila sa mga dev ped, we have a 3 weeks lead time for the appointment schedule!!!

[Syuryuken]

while eating at a fast food chain, you can ask him to get tissue at the counter and assure him that everything will be ok. repeat X times matututo din yan.

ayaw na ayaw niyang gawin to, subukan ko ulit pag kakain kami sa labas.

[Flagg]

Syu, pre, 50% perfect na kid mo kung girl!

Mahiyain = mahirapan mga menyeks lapitan...

Kulang nalang sa kanya, madagdagan exposure kay daddy (aka Syuryuken). Kapag more time together kayo, malalaman niya lahat ng tricks ng menyek. Immune na sya sa mga yun. Perfect diba? Safe na safe na sya. :rofl:

Pag-isipin mo mabuti sinabi ko...

[froshie1]

ayaw na ayaw niyang gawin to, subukan ko ulit pag kakain kami sa labas.

yeah and hindi lang tissue. tell your kid to buy ice cream at the counter.. yeah mahihirapan yun pero samahan mo and assure him that everything is ok. repeat gazillion times. if ayaw pa rin, pakiramdaman mo na lang you may need to ask for professional help.

tapos pare isupplement mo pa (pero syempre baka hindi magwork sa iyo ito) na as he grows old remind him na kapag mahiyain sya eh may chances na magugutom sya. Iyon lagi ang sinasabi ng nanay ko eh, hehehe it worked naman sa akin. "Anak pag mahiyain ka magugutom ka".