wife listens to liberated bestfriend than you

[jackbauer]

ano ba dapat gawin pag wife mo eh mas gusto makinig sa bestfriend nya kaysa sa'yo. ok lang naman kasi college friend nya yun so mas nauna nya meet yun kaysa sakin.

pero what's troubling is yun pinakikinggan nya eh medyo hindi conservative pinay. medyo liberated yun kasi andami na daw nya secret affairs during her marriage. yun husband nya who is a not so close friend of mine, nasa abroad working while this best friend of my wife buhay dalaga dito

what do you think should I do ba? na-weirdohan na ako sa setup. dami nila magbabarkada but she listens to that particular woman alone, yun ibang barkada nya na happily married parang aloof pa sya duon sa dapat eh lalo magbigay ng good advice sa buhay kasi in good company

what will you do in this kind of situation?

the thing is a voice in me wants to let go. bahala na lang if she idolizes her bestfriend. i believe in the saying when a door closes, another one opens. so be it if the inevitable will happen. i can say i'm ready to face the hurting, but it is easier said than done.

but it's only thru hurting that you become stronger diba? instead of being paranoid all the time ... or am I just sour-graping.

pls advise naman po oh.

i really need to know. I'm at the crossroads of my career also. the timing couldn't been more worse. my dad could be seeing another woman (another story). now my wife like this. i just realized that what I used to love to do, now I hate so much. Macworld 2008 didnt even put a smile in my face. i have no excitement anymore about future talk and future breakthroughs whether cars, gadgets or good business idea. anyway, enough of that. off topic na.

pano ba ito how do you deal with a supposedly life partner like this?

[suv]

Wala pa ako asawa

Pero ang masasabi ko lang eh kailangan mo prangkahin yung wife mo.....

Mahirap nga pag yung kaibigan ng wife eh "ala-*** and the City"......Mahirap mga ganyan klaseng babae.....Mahirap pag ang kaibigan ng wife mo eh maypa ka "Desperate Housewives".....

Kasi pag tagal baka mahawa sya jan...

Kaya pag-usapan nyo yan.....

[jackbauer]

pano ba simulan pagusapan ang ganito? the thing is I myself is immature in these kinds of discussions. I'd rather do something more delightful than deal with this. and as a result, nasa supernatural season 3 episode 4 na ako. i'm also planning to buy xbox 360 + plasma TV so that I can have quality time from 7pm onwards.

if I get tired of the xbox shooting, i'll join the airsoft forums and join a group there. if time permits, i'll just buy a pistol and aim to join a national gun shooting contest.

this is the image that I always manage to project into my mind at times I'm thinking of these problems. this one I learned from a psychology acquaintance. if at times you are getting so confused and there is no way out, i-picture mo na lang happy things that you'd like.

i have perfected this. kaya lang kasi, when I wake up, the problem is still there ...

the question lang naman kasi eh how is it logical to listen to a bestfriend who almost acts like a b!$th? kung ganun ang takbo ng utak ng wife mo, then is she worth fighting for? who knows, if I win this round, she'll take this against me in some future fight na papa-guilty-hin nya ako on how she bowed down to me before. this I believe is what will happen. you know why? bec. I just opened up to her about the incident where I am suspecting that my dad maybe having an affair. I saw the 2 of them together and I think my dad saw me too. you know what the reply she gave me: "eh di ok yun, baka ibigay na ng dad mo yun full amount na i-lo-loan mo"

WTF!

who did I marry?

[suv]

^

Ibang klase yung reply ng wife mo ah..... (nakakaloko yun ah)

Kung wala ka naman tinatago na ibang affair or wala ka naman dati affair eh may karapatan ka prangkahin wife mo....

Sabihin mo lang kung ano nafefeel mo.....

Pero jackbauer, may OT question ako.....Hindi ka naman galit sa Outlander?

[Jun aka Pekto]

If it's all talk and no action, I wouldn't be too worried. My wife have divorcee Pinays among her friends. They talk about "juicy" stuff all the time. So long as it's all talk, I'm not worried.

I do keep strong communication with the wife and I trust her with my life.

If you feel unsecure about the whole thing, tell her.... If you have problems with her best friend, confront her and tell her to stop.

My wife might have me on a short leash most of the time. But, I know when to step in and put my foot down (and I have the temper to match). I've confronted a few of my wife's so-called friends at their work because of the trouble they're causing. They haven't caused any trouble since.

[Syuryuken]

OldBlue aka Bladerunner -> newblue -> 6shooter -> eddiebauer -> jackbauer

hayan na naman mga threads mo