panawagan ng isang OFW, nangangaliwa asawa daw nya.. what should be done?..

[dbuzz]

ito ang panawagan nya.

Nasa abroad ako ngayon. Nakita ng kaibigan ko ang asawa ko na pumasok sa hotel kasama ang ibang lalaki. Malamang di naman gagawa ng kwento ang kaibigan ko. Ngayon, dapat ko bang patawarin ang asawa kong nagtaksil sa akin habang nagpapakahirap ako sa abroad?


ito advice ng isa

hi po!!! don't just judge muna ur wife... malay mu wento lng din ng friend mu... advise lng poh, wen u get home ask ur wife bout it... pagusapan po muna bgo gumawa ng kung anu2 poh! goodluck

ito ito naman yung isa.

napakasikit KUYA AD...dy..

mga ganitong pangyayari eh di biro-biro ito. it will take a lot of thinking and weighing. sabi nga ni mam pjay "..don't just judge.." and put it in your mind that it is only you and your wify that can settle this thing. kung tutuo then end the relation rationally "no need to cry over a lost smelly shoe" hey mabahong bagay na yun eh panghihinayangan mo pa?...she doesn't worth anything now. "hiwalay kong hiwalay!!!" ika nga. sabihin mo galit na galit ka sa kasamaang ginawa nya?... no.. ginawa nya yun sa sarili nya...eh ok na magalit but not to the extent na gagawa ka rin nga isang masama or maybe more gruesome than what she'd done. then again we have a proper venue for that. end it legally and i'm sure you'll have the last laugh. kadalasan kasi sa pangyayaring ganito ang tunay na kalaban natin ay ang sarili natin!! "papano na sasabihin ng mga tao sa akin ngayon nito? ... na ipotan na ako sa ulo!!" ohh don't bother man, abroad trabaho mo ..ang daming ipapalit dyan. the best pa kukuha ka ng wify na dyan din sa abroad kasama mo. easy na lang ngayon ang kasong yan. don't cling on the old way of thinking. masisira lang kinabukasan mo or worst it be eh masira pa ulo mo.

inuulit ko, kung tutuo nga na nangaliwa sya, end the relation LEGALLY.. and surely you have the last laugh. she doesn't worth anything!!!.. she is a dirt that doesn't worth a slightest of your attention.... and you end up a WINNER dude.

control that old fashion "ipot" thing.. control yourself as what napoleon bonaparte said "Those who conquer others are great. But those who conquer himself is MIGHTY"

[chua_riwap]

Totoo ba ito o "kwentong kutsero " lang? Baka isa rin itong mga kwent-kwento na naikot sa internet.

[BoEinG_747]

kung sakali tutuo ito ...paimbestigahan mo nga kung tutuo ginawa ng asawa mo

malalaman mo naman iyan pag isang taon
ka nawala tapos pagdating mo buntis misis mo ..hehehe
( di na pala kailangan ng imbestigasyon may katibayan na )

[DonT]

May or may not be true...since yung lalaki ang nagtatanong ng advice, alanganin nga ang position ni misis.

But looking at the bigger picture, there might be things that we do not know.
1. Baka di nagpapadala yung lalaki.
2. Matagal na hindi nakikipag contact yung lalaki.
3. Meron pala babae yung lalaki sa abroad.
4. Nambubugbog pala yung lalaki.

etc. etc...there are many things which needs to be considered.

[VtEC]

baka kapatid yong kasama sa hotel at may susunduin lang.Bro hotel ang pinasok at di motel, so mas malamang baka sa lobby lang sila or kumain lang.

[Syuryuken]

Nakow kung ganyang wala ka ng tiwala sa asawa mo dapat na talagang maghiwalay.

[D_rock_777]

kung nakita man ng kaibigan niya na pumasok si babae at si lalaki sa hotel, katibayan na ba yon na may relasyon sila? pumasok lang pala eh!
ngayon gaano kakilala ni mister si misis niya?
gaano kakilala ni mister si kaibigan niya?
sino sa kanila ang katiwa-tiwala?

marami ng nasirang pamilya dahil lamang sa maling impormasyon. marami ring nasirang pamilya dahil sa maling pagmamalasakit ng kaibigan.

sabihin mo kay ofw, huwag niyang masyadong isipin ang sinabi ng kaibigan niya. sa pag uwi ni ofw dapat kausapin niya si misis ng masinsinan na walang halong init ng ulo at i-settle ang dapat i-settle kung meron man sa mahinahon na kaparaanan. higit sa lahat magtiwala siya Diyos at sa sarili niya para hindi siya mag-isip ng masasamang kaisipan patungkol sa nakita ng kaibigan niya. just my 2 cents...

[jeffrocks]

Be civilized,don't just get easily believed in those rumors,alam natin ang mga pinoy mahilig dyan[tsismis],protect your interest.You can take a leave and then uwi ka sa pinas but stay somewhere without the knowledge of your family, if you're in doubt hire a private detective to do the job of your wife's infidelity and if found positive [hopefully not] release her or you can file adultery case on her if you want...thats it.

[wildthing]

agree with jeffrocks opinion.

[Hanren]

Back your evidence ..

hire a private detective agency to monitori your wife. It may cost you a lot but it may save you some peace of mind later on... just my 2c...

[CVT]

You will never appreciate nor understand what's going on in the mind of an OFW who is working so hard to earn a living for his family in a far far away land, while being oh so faithful to his/her partner in the Phil .....unless you are or were one.....

Well, I was one some years ago. And, words cannot describe the pain in the face of those fellow OFWs who have not received word from home. It was at that time when letters and telex were the major means of correspondence.
(And I think it's not that much difference nowadays with cellphones and SMS since both good news and bad news can hit you real time)....

It was Christmas eve and we were in the company of fellow OFWs in our neighborhood. They were construction workers. To pass away the time, we were singing Christmas songs and later on, we were feasting with on our sumptuous dinner. After which, one by one, each slowly retired to his bed. When I entered their bedroom to ask a friend for some stuffs, I couldn't believe what I heard and saw. Almost of them were crying. And I tell you, these big men were crying because they cannot stand the pain of being separated from their loved ones on this special day....

I cannot overstress this,- but if you hear these kinds of news from the Philippines, whether they're true or not, it's really a big burden on our OFWs. Loneliness and being powerless is a big gorilla on their backs.

4000:play_ball:

[juntzo]

You will never appreciate nor understand what's going on in the mind of an OFW who is working so hard to earn a living for his family in a far far away land, while being oh so faithful to his/her partner in the Phil .....unless you are or were one.....

Well, I was one some years ago. And, words cannot describe the pain in the face of those fellow OFWs who have not received word from home. It was at that time when letters and telex were the major means of correspondence.
(And I think it's not that much difference nowadays with cellphones and SMS since both good news and bad news can hit you real time)....

It was Christmas eve and we were in the company of fellow OFWs in our neighborhood. They were construction workers. To pass away the time, we were singing Christmas songs and later on, we were feasting with on our sumptuous dinner. After which, one by one, each slowly retired to his bed. When I entered their bedroom to ask a friend for some stuffs, I couldn't believe what I heard and saw. Almost of them were crying. And I tell you, these big men were crying because they cannot stand the pain of being separated from their loved ones on this special day....

I cannot overstress this,- but if you hear these kinds of news from the Philippines, whether they're true or not, it's really a big burden on our OFWs. Loneliness and being powerless is a big gorilla on their backs.

4000:play_ball:

Nice words... Sir CVT. Thanks for all the OFWs like me!
I've been through a lot of painful experiences too when I was away for 7 years. Don't get me wrong. My work have been very fruitful financially but did a big toll on my marriage!

[the_wildthing]

I would suggest hiring a private investigator to verify with pictures. If it's true then ipadala yung pictures with a note saying "Eto na ang huli kong padala sa 'yo."

Ipa-DNA test ang mga anak lalo na kung alanganin ang pag-bubuntis.

Kunin ang mga anak.

The best talaga is huwag iwanan si misis ng matagal.

[XTO]

Sad to say marami ang nagkaka-ganyan. Tawag ng laman ika nga. Sa kaso niya, it’s better to ask some help from his trusted relatives (walang history ng paninira sa asawa niya) to investigate and confirm if the tsismis is true. Then if he really loves his wife, go home immediately and talk about it and fix it. If he’s not happy as well, I think it’s about time to call it quits. Itigil ang padala at ipunin ng solo para sa mga anak.

[oldblue]

masakit nga yan. di ka naman puwede humanap ng other means ng libangan like LCD TV, cars, sa pinagtrabahuhan mo kasi uuwi ka din. tapos being stuck in a room and a contract even make it worse. and even you do try to play it out with other OFW's, alam mo na may asawa din sila. and it's just temporary.

forgiveness lang talaga ang puwede ...

[Nell]

The best is to ask/hire someone to investigate. Pakuhanan na lang ng pictures with dates kung kelan mga nangyari yung pagkikita. Usually kung nasimulan na yan ng misis niya hahanap-hanapin na niya yan kaya dadalas na pagkikita nila. Then kung totoo, ask yourself bakit kaya nagawa ng misis mo to? Naging pabayang mister ka ba? Pinabayaan mo ba pamliya mo? kung hindi ang sagot mo, hiwalayan mo na. Mahirap yung magsasama pa kayo then everytime you leave your house nag-iisip ka ng masama. Baka yung mga pinaghihirapan mo eh imbes na yung mga anak mo nakikinabang eh yung mokong na kalaguyo pa niya nagpapasasa.

[uls]

aynaku dami ganyan...

there are actually lazy tambays who look for wives of OFWs to hook up with.

Hindi nirereport ng govt and NGOs ang effect OFW phenomena on the Filipino family. Puro remittances lang ang nasa news.

Kids grow up unsupervised, wives and husbands have extra marital affairs here and abroad... many families are breaking up...

[baiskee]

masamang balita man yan...dapat di agad pinaniniwalaan kahit sa mapagkakatiwalaan tao pa manggaling ang balita.

mas maganda kung makita mo talaga na niloloko ka nga.

[Gumusut_Amige]

whether an ofw or not truly this is the least news for anybody want to hear. for an ofw, get a trusted relative to poke around and if ever it's validated (with evidence) on the wrongdoing of his wife then an emergency leave should be in order. sometimes getting an emergency leave will lead you to lose your job (kung may tiwala ka sa sarili mo dapat kaya mong kumuha ng iba pang trabaho kung sakali man) but it's still better than trying to work up to your contract date with all the stress created by such wife infidelity (kasi siguradong maaapektuhan ang iyong work performance at pakikitungo sa mga kasamahan).
face the problem squarely and openly, get his wife side of story. kung talagang mahal niya si misis, a compromise should be agreed before any forgiveness will be given (halimbawa yung padalang pera ay para sapat lang sa mga bata-mahirap na baka mapunta pa sa kalaguyo). pero kung ayaw na niya kay misis... mas madali ng aregluhin, just let her go but keep the kids and sue her for concubinage!

[Memphis Raines]

This is one of those risk factors that OFWs may encounter, very sad indeed.

I have a buddy who is working his ass off in the middle east right now and only gets to go home once a year. The one really benefits from his earnings is his wife who goes on buying sprees and shuffles cars at his expense. But apparently lately she has been admiring a mechanic in a shop that she frequents. Admiring the muscled guy, she appears to be very vocal about her admiration for thug who probably sees her as a walking ATM machine.

I'm tempted to tell my buddy each time he gets to email me on how he misses his wife and kid but then ayoko naman makialam.