[Split:] When is the right time to get married?

[BlueBimmer]

guys pasingit lng..how would one know na its the right time to ask for her hand in marriage? we've been together for almost a year and im financially ok for marriage. is 25 the right age to marry or is it too early? hehe penge lng advice sa mga veterans

[kevinp]

Mejo OT ah... pwede siguro ilagay sa ibang thread ito.

Lemme answer your question anyway. There's really no such thing as right time to marry (except siguro when you're at an age where its legally prohibited to marry). It depends more on your mental age although other factors (like finances) should also be taken into account.

The question really is why do you want to marry this person? (or kahit ba girlfriend lang, applicable din, IMO) The reason should not be for companionship or because "she completes me." Neither should it be because you are "in love" (God knows the butterflies in your stomack eventually die).

To me, more than any of these factors, the most important is whether or not you are able and willing to commit yourself into a life-long commitment with that other person.

Marami pa akong gustong sabihin sana pero next time na lang. hehehe...


I, thank you. *bow*

[BlueBimmer]

one thing i really like about her is she's never a nagger, never naging makulit and if we had a disagreement she would never argue with me kaya never kami nagkaroon ng major LQ talaga. i really think she would be the perfect wife for me, cos i really hate makulit na gal (like my exs)

i guess im just afraid that i might be *sawa* with her after getting married (if)..mabilis kasi ako masawa.. tnx for ur advice guys

[theveed]

BB: Walng "right age" yan pre... Kami ng asawa ko mag on since we were 15, we got married 24 kami... to be honest, there are so much things that happen day to day na bago, good or bad... di kami nagsasawa...

yes may times na nakakabad trip o pagod na mga differences nyo di na mababago, but walang couple na walang differences, to be honest, imagine nyo if you married yourself, you'll probably be very pissed to face someone with the same character as yourself...

it shouldn't be a question of whether or not "ready na kayo" or "kaya na ba"... if madami kayong issues na di maresolve in a honest and fair manner at puros "give in" or "let it go till we forget it" type ang conflict resolution nyo, mahihirapan kayo...

Look at the "bad days" nyo and see how it went, if those days were challenging but does not "damage" your relationship in terms of trust and care, then it's a good start.... Wag nyo ibase sa mga "good memories" nyo lang hehe...

When we had our son this year, our whole world turned upside down... daming stress, challenges and frustrations, but lahat naging fruitful and sobrang immeasurable ang saya namin ngayon as a family...

[baiskee]

OT: hindi excuse yan "sawa" baka pag naghiwalay kayo yan ang sasabihin mo.

getting married is a serious matter...sabi nga "hindi parang kaning isusubo na pag napaso, pwedeng iluwa."

siguraduhin mo lang na pag nagasawa ka na, hindi ka na pwedeng bumalik sa pagkabinata. ;)

[theveed]

baiskee: hehe... kaya kung di ka sigurado, magpakasal ka sa place na may divorce ehhe.

[BlueBimmer]

hehe yan ang primary problem ko...last question nlang mga pre..para sa mga may asawa na, san ka naging mas masaya, nung binata ka o may asawa ka na?

dami ko lng kasi nakikita na married couple na parang nagsawaan na..kaya di ako cgurado to get married.

[jim]

mas masaya ako ngayong may asawa na at mga anak. dati kasi wala akong pakialam sa buhay saka puro gastos. Nakabili na ako ng bahay at sasakyan nung may asawa na ako eh.

[theveed]

parehong may pro and con, but all things considered, im a happier person after I got married (especially when I became a dad)

pag binata ka, mas superficial and material ang kaligayahan ko... although never naman ako naging babaero masyado kaya can't comment on that aspect...

again, my opinion, di nangyayari ang "sawaan" ng magasawa unless wala kayong connection other than physical and appearance. If you think that your relationship is based on novelty of each other's traits, walang mararating yan... sigurado mangangaliwa ang isa dyan to find "new novelty" to enjoy.

;) hahah

[baiskee]

:bwahaha: ser theveed, yan ata kailangan ni bluebimmer. :D

[kevinp]

bluebimmer, kung di ka siguradong gusto mo mag-asawa, don't do it.

IMO, di rin divorce ang sagot. Kaya nangangailangan ng divorce ang mga tao is because of lack of foresight/planning before getting married.

Kung mali ang foundations ng marriage/relationships, pag binagyo, guguho talaga ito. But if matibay ang foundation, kahit anong bagyo ang dumating, buhay parin ang relationship.

[theveed]

I think the fact that you are still asking those questions, BB, is a sign na di ka pa ready for it....

[BlueBimmer]

i sometimes see my brothers with their wife n kids and i wish to have what they have..my own family..the only think thats holding me back is baka im young pa to be married..n baka i have to sacrifice alot of stuff, im tired of fooling around na rin kasi
i envy u guys..im seriously considering proposing to her early next year...oh and can i ask for proposal ideas from u guys..romantic ways to propose? hehe

[baiskee]

ayan na...create your own thread na lang for this para di tayo ma-sita ng mods kasi OT. ;)

for sure dami sasagot dyan.

[theveed]

o kaya paki split nalang yung topic mod... malinaw naman kung san nahijack yung thread...

[partially at fault, very sorry]

[BlueBimmer]

ops sori

[NightRock]

Originally posted by kevinp
bluebimmer, kung di ka siguradong gusto mo mag-asawa, don't do it.

IMO, di rin divorce ang sagot. Kaya nangangailangan ng divorce ang mga tao is because of lack of foresight/planning before getting married.

Kung mali ang foundations ng marriage/relationships, pag binagyo, guguho talaga ito. But if matibay ang foundation, kahit anong bagyo ang dumating, buhay parin ang relationship.

Sakto tama ka dyan at important thing is kilalanin mo mabuti.. mahirap mag sisi sa bandang huli.. (like me)... damn ang hirap mag pa process ng anullment at magastos pa... Buti nalang naka file na yung sakin...

[superpinay13]

[QUOTE=NightRock]Sakto tama ka dyan at important thing is kilalanin mo mabuti.. mahirap mag sisi sa bandang huli.. (like me)... damn ang hirap mag pa process ng anullment at magastos pa... Buti nalang naka file na yung sakin...[/

MAHIRAP TALAGA MAG PROCESS NG ANULLMENT LALO NA KUNG DI NA ATTEND NG HEARING ANG NAGFILE AT SYA PA ANG WITNESS....DI BA NIGTHROCK? mahirap talaga magsisi sa huli lalo na pag nabuking ka sa plano mo na di makatao..

[Karding]

[QUOTE=superpinay13]

Sakto tama ka dyan at important thing is kilalanin mo mabuti.. mahirap mag sisi sa bandang huli.. (like me)... damn ang hirap mag pa process ng anullment at magastos pa... Buti nalang naka file na yung sakin...[/

MAHIRAP TALAGA MAG PROCESS NG ANULLMENT LALO NA KUNG DI NA ATTEND NG HEARING ANG NAGFILE AT SYA PA ANG WITNESS....DI BA NIGTHROCK? mahirap talaga magsisi sa huli lalo na pag nabuking ka sa plano mo na di makatao..

[silverbx986]

[QUOTE=superpinay13]

Sakto tama ka dyan at important thing is kilalanin mo mabuti.. mahirap mag sisi sa bandang huli.. (like me)... damn ang hirap mag pa process ng anullment at magastos pa... Buti nalang naka file na yung sakin...[/

MAHIRAP TALAGA MAG PROCESS NG ANULLMENT LALO NA KUNG DI NA ATTEND NG HEARING ANG NAGFILE AT SYA PA ANG WITNESS....DI BA NIGTHROCK? mahirap talaga magsisi sa huli lalo na pag nabuking ka sa plano mo na di makatao.. :

it's very unfortunate. sad to say...it's time to move on and get on
with your life.