How Not To Court A Girl

[kimpOy]

read it somewhere,
naalala ko una si odell he..he

1. First thing first. Never ask the girl if it is OK for you to
court her. Just go ahead and do it. If she said yes, she might
feel "pressured" to eventually agree to having relationship with you
only because you'd already have invested time and money on her, when
she had the choice in the beginning to reject you. If she said no,
you'd be left thinking this is a mean person who did not even give
you a chance. Allow her the space to make up her mind along the
way. (Another way of seeing it is that you are NOT allowing her the
privilege to reject you outright).


2. Don't be a puzzle. State your intentions. Guessing motives is
stressful for the girl, more so if she is not in the habit of
assuming intentions. The moment you decide to court her, express in
explicit, unambiguous terms what you are doing. Wanting to get to
know her better is always a good reason. Be honest. Girls are most
often impressed by guys who open their hearts. This little show of
vulnerability is a sign of emotional maturity. If you're serious
(should be!), this will not be a big deal.


3. Don't be a fake. Of course you want to impress the girl, but
don't do it to the extent of re-packaging your character to fit her
taste. Save yourself the hassle of constantly being on the watch for
your behavior, words and actions. If your personality is too much
too take within the first few days, you might want to introduce your
idiosyncrasies little by little. Be human. This is already a
declaration that you are not afraid to show your true self, and
allows her to do the same.


4. Don't bribe. Give gifts in moderation. Flowers on the first
dinner, chocolate the following week are ok but everyday material
reminder can be suffocating. The same deal for time. She had a life
before you came along. Asking her to see you everyday may be too
much too handle.


5. Don't say "I love you" too early. Few people believe in love at
first sight nowadays and you'd sure be subjected to a lot of "whys
and "hows" if you profess love too early. "How can you be sure it's
love when you don't know me well?" The situation will be frustrating
if you can't make her accept you answers.


6. Do not expect a happy ending. Your intention was to get to know
her better and knowing more may actually cause you to rethink why you
liked her in the first place. Life is not a fairy tale and people
can turn out very different from our first impressions of them. If
you were sincere and honest, then you'd have gained a friend if she
can't be your girlfriend.



Being in love is the best feeling in the world. It makes you
discover what you are capable of doing, what you are willing to give
up, how far your patience can stretch and how happy you can be.
There's mind-blowing sense of security in knowing that someone out
there cares for you, thinks of you before she sleeps at night, and is
including you in her plans for the future.



If after following the steps above my friend finds himself in a
relationship, then I have one more advise for him: Never end the
courting?

[OTEP]

Paging odell! Yohoo! :D

[yebo]

ummm, sige! dahan-dahan lang. remember, masarap maghabulan sa damuhan, at pag nahuli mo na pwede kayo pagulong-gulong. pero check mo muna baka may nag-pupu na aso dun ha.

[odell]

pwede ba gawing sticky? :charing:

hahahahahaa



:hihihi:

[ARB]

update naman odell sa thread mo about the girl na you really cared kung kayo na or sila na.

[Bubbles]

ODELL!!!!!! . tama yung huling statement. never stop courting

[odell]

ARB,
wala na.. good close friend daw ako... hayop un consolation nh... pero mejo naayawan ko nadin coz seeing her without me.. parang ang dame guys e.. really thank God na hinde ako un guy ngaun... nahihirapan siguro un.. dame pala boys nun.. patago lang.. she had a relation for years kasi.. and 1st nya un.. kaya siguro nagloloko siya ngaun.. grbe, i really pity the girl... kaya eto ako.. aral muna hbang hnap hnap ng knti.hahahaha..


bubbles,
magamit natin yan sa next... kelan pa kya?.... hmmmmmmm.....

[IceColdBeer]

odell,

that means she cares for you at ayaw ka nyang masaktan dahil sa mga paglalaro nya. Di kayo katalo hehehe.

[wreckless]

dapat ata palitan yung topic title...
TO ODELL : ...

nyahahaha!

[kimpOy]

di mo kasi inaraw araw eh he..he.

hingi ka na lang sa tatay ungas mo ng chicks

[ARB]

that good life must go on. marami pa dyan