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**Jun aka Pekto** · August 8th, 2016 02:36 AM

Originally Posted by _Cathy_

Thanks. I'm from Makati (close enough to BGC) And I was old enough to remember when the whole of BGC is Makati.

I live with my parents

It makes sense. When I first asked what is BGC and finally saw it, I said it looked like the spiffy areas of Makati back in the early 80's.

Nothing wrong with still living with your parents. I've seen many Japanese families still living together, 3 generations.

But, I'm sure your folks are pushing you to get married or something. My mom did the same. She wanted me to marry their (influential) friend's daughter. Then she got pissed when I married someone else of my own choosing.

**_Cathy_** · August 8th, 2016 02:50 AM

Originally Posted by Jun aka Pekto

It makes sense. When I first asked what is BGC and finally saw it, I said it looked like the spiffy areas of Makati back in the early 80's.

Nothing wrong with still living with your parents. I've seen many Japanese families still living together, 3 generations.

But, I'm sure your folks are pushing you to get married or something. My mom did the same. She wanted me to marry their (influential) friend's daughter. Then she got pissed when I married someone else of my own choosing.

You're right. My family wants me to have a baby already. My Uncle (who is still a bachelor in his 50s) said even without a husband as long as I have a son to carry our surname

My paternal Lola is 90 and it would be nice if she would see my children. She is expecting me to make a good choice for a husband but she is so pintasera. Would I want my inheritance to go to others if I don't have children daw. There isn't much to inherit anyway.

They also tease me for having a dog as my baby. hehehe.

**Jun aka Pekto** · August 8th, 2016 03:08 AM

Originally Posted by _Cathy_

You're right. My family wants me to have a baby already. My Uncle (who is still a bachelor in his 50s) said even without a husband as long as I have a son to carry our surname

My paternal Lola is 90 and it would be nice if she would see my children. She is expecting me to make a good choice for a husband but she is so pintasera. Would I want my inheritance to go to others if I don't have children daw. There isn't much to inherit anyway.

They also tease me for having a dog as my baby. hehehe.

Whatever you do, don't piss them off like I did. We didn't see each other or even communicated with one another for 19 years. We just finally buried the hatchet back in 2013.

**_Cathy_** · August 8th, 2016 03:38 AM

Originally Posted by Jun aka Pekto

Whatever you do, don't piss them off like I did. We didn't see each other or even communicated with one another for 19 years. We just finally buried the hatchet back in 2013.

So it was like you had to choose between your future wife or family. That's hard. But I've never loved anyone enough romantically. So I will always choose my parents haha.

I know I need to marry someone that my family approves of because I don't want the issues my brother and cousins encountered. A lot are separated because the family becomes an issue. My Lola even supports the annulment because she doesn't like any of her in laws. She is pushing one of my cousins to leave his wife whom she shreds to pieces with insults

She is such a character. haha.

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**screws** · August 8th, 2016 04:48 AM

rich people problem eh..

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**Jun aka Pekto** · August 8th, 2016 05:36 AM

Originally Posted by _Cathy_

So it was like you had to choose between your future wife or family. That's hard. But I've never loved anyone enough romantically. So I will always choose my parents haha.

Actually, my mom never told me anything about that other girl until I visited a decade after I returned here. Of course, I never told my mom I already had someone else in mind prior to that visit.

So, we kinda surprised each other.

My mom is very stubborn. I have her blood. So, I'm just as stubborn as she is. You could say neither one of us gave way. So, there went 19 years wasted.

My mom finally accepted my wife. But, she still refers to her as Bisaya.

"Say hello to Bisaya for me."

I wish she's more forgiving. But, that's the best I can force her to be.

She'll love her youngest granddaughter. She's a spitting image of her and has her temper too.

**ninjababez** · August 8th, 2016 11:58 AM

Question:
Pag may nag follow sayo
Nakita ko lang tapatalk, pano ko malaman kung anong forum?
Kaparanoid lang eh
Thanks

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**_Cathy_** · August 8th, 2016 01:42 PM

Originally Posted by Jun aka Pekto

Actually, my mom never told me anything about that other girl until I visited a decade after I returned here. Of course, I never told my mom I already had someone else in mind prior to that visit.

So, we kinda surprised each other.

My mom is very stubborn. I have her blood. So, I'm just as stubborn as she is. You could say neither one of us gave way. So, there went 19 years wasted.

My mom finally accepted my wife. But, she still refers to her as Bisaya.

"Say hello to Bisaya for me."

I wish she's more forgiving. But, that's the best I can force her to be.

She'll love her youngest granddaughter. She's a spitting image of her and has her temper too.

Your Mom reminds me of my elders

She calls my cousin's wife "native" And my brother's ex "kapampangan" or "bruha" hahaha. My kuya cousin is on his second annulment and she calls the wife "psycho"

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**Jun aka Pekto** · August 8th, 2016 01:59 PM

Originally Posted by _Cathy_

Your Mom reminds me of my elders

She calls my cousin's wife "native" And my brother's ex "kapampangan" or "bruha" hahaha. My kuya cousin is on his second annulment and she calls the wife "psycho"

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I don't like it. But, sometimes, I just have to put up with it because my mom is simply not going to change. That's why even now when we finally patched things up, I still keep my distance.....somewhat. I'm so far removed from my mom's way of thinking, it's a wonder she still considers me her son.