pagkamahiyain ng bata paano gamutin?

**Syuryuken** · November 24th, 2007 03:54 PM

Originally Posted by froshie1

while eating at a fast food chain, you can ask him to get tissue at the counter and assure him that everything will be ok. repeat X times matututo din yan.

ayaw na ayaw niyang gawin to, subukan ko ulit pag kakain kami sa labas.

**Flagg** · November 24th, 2007 06:07 PM

Syu, pre, 50% perfect na kid mo kung girl!

Mahiyain = mahirapan mga menyeks lapitan...

Kulang nalang sa kanya, madagdagan exposure kay daddy (aka Syuryuken). Kapag more time together kayo, malalaman niya lahat ng tricks ng menyek. Immune na sya sa mga yun. Perfect diba? Safe na safe na sya. :rofl:

Pag-isipin mo mabuti sinabi ko...

**wildthing** · November 24th, 2007 07:33 PM

Why not try to seek professional help from a child psychologist or a developmental pediatrician? bawat age level/group kasi dapat nagpoprogress ang tao.

Minsan kasi one part will be progressing faster (like social behaviour)....pero ang ibang part naman can slow down.

As such it would be best na ma-evaluate ang daugther mo so a possible remedy or therapy can be done properly.

Example ko nangyari sa akin:

My youngest kid was slow to speak (compared to his elder siblings at the same age)... pero grabe naman ang development ng motor skills and hand-eye coordination (almost a half a year advance for his age) nito.

We seeked professional help, and the doctor gave us good advises on the kid. He didn't went for therapy (the doctor was probably so busy she did not schedule us at all) pero sinunod namin ang mga pointers niya and even researched sa internet therapy-type procedures to follow or practice para maimprove yung problem niya. And true enough we saw progress on the speech skills niya after a few months.

**smooth** · November 24th, 2007 07:47 PM

Originally Posted by Syuryuken

sa gabi lang kami nakakapaglaro pagkatapos na ng trabaho, whole day mama niyang kasama niya, silang namamasyal. nagpapabili na nga ng kapatid eh para may kalaro daw siya

disclaimer: hindi ako psychiatrist.

that being said, malakas ang stranger anxiety ng anak mo, which is a sign na very involved ang parents sa pagpapalaki ng anak (which is a good thing if you ask me). yun nga lang, at this age, mukhang na-b-bother ka sa pagkamahiyain niya.

tama si wildthing. subukan mo magpatingin sa dev ped. yun nga lang, ang haba ng pila sa appointment sked ng mga dev ped. pero worth it pag nakapag-consulta kayo.

okay din suggestion ni galant-vr-94. ako suggest ko isali mo sa sports.

**hominid** · November 24th, 2007 08:46 PM

Eto mahirap sa panahon natin. Kelangan mag family planning kaya yan.

**froshie1** · November 27th, 2007 05:46 AM

Originally Posted by Syuryuken

ayaw na ayaw niyang gawin to, subukan ko ulit pag kakain kami sa labas.

yeah and hindi lang tissue. tell your kid to buy ice cream at the counter.. yeah mahihirapan yun pero samahan mo and assure him that everything is ok. repeat gazillion times. if ayaw pa rin, pakiramdaman mo na lang you may need to ask for professional help.

tapos pare isupplement mo pa (pero syempre baka hindi magwork sa iyo ito) na as he grows old remind him na kapag mahiyain sya eh may chances na magugutom sya. Iyon lagi ang sinasabi ng nanay ko eh, hehehe it worked naman sa akin. "Anak pag mahiyain ka magugutom ka".

**badkuk** · November 27th, 2007 06:34 AM

yah, i think iincrease mo lang ung exposure niya sa tao para masanay. each kid will have his/her own personality; some will take pleasure with interacting with people, others will see it as a chore. pero it's something that everyone will have to deal with, better sooner than later B)

imho, being shy/cautious isn't necessarily a bad thing. maganda na rin na medyo maingat ung tao, especially these days. ung pamangkin ko, polar opposite ng anak mo -- sobrang taklesa B) which worries me cause kahit sinong tao kinakausap.

i was a shy kid for most of my childhood -- heck, i still am. buti na lang andiyan ung mga kapatid, aunts & uncles, and cousins ko B) you tend to "learn" how they deal with people.

**Syuryuken** · November 27th, 2007 10:33 AM

Originally Posted by froshie1

yeah and hindi lang tissue. tell your kid to buy ice cream at the counter.. yeah mahihirapan yun pero samahan mo and assure him that everything is ok. repeat gazillion times. if ayaw pa rin, pakiramdaman mo na lang you may need to ask for professional help.

tapos pare isupplement mo pa (pero syempre baka hindi magwork sa iyo ito) na as he grows old remind him na kapag mahiyain sya eh may chances na magugutom sya. Iyon lagi ang sinasabi ng nanay ko eh, hehehe it worked naman sa akin. "Anak pag mahiyain ka magugutom ka".

ayaw talaga gusto niya laging may kasama

Originally Posted by badkuk

yah, i think iincrease mo lang ung exposure niya sa tao para masanay. each kid will have his/her own personality; some will take pleasure with interacting with people, others will see it as a chore. pero it's something that everyone will have to deal with, better sooner than later B)

imho, being shy/cautious isn't necessarily a bad thing. maganda na rin na medyo maingat ung tao, especially these days. ung pamangkin ko, polar opposite ng anak mo -- sobrang taklesa B) which worries me cause kahit sinong tao kinakausap.

i was a shy kid for most of my childhood -- heck, i still am. buti na lang andiyan ung mga kapatid, aunts & uncles, and cousins ko B) you tend to "learn" how they deal with people.

sabi ng mga teacher sa school niya makulit din daw siya pag kasama niya yung mga classmates niya pero pag sa labas ng school tahimik na siya.

**Cult Zero** · November 27th, 2007 12:03 PM

Originally Posted by wildthing

Why not try to seek professional help from a child psychologist or a developmental pediatrician?

is shyness an illness (psychological) na kailangan gamutin? or a stage na kailangan malampasan?

although i learned to deal with different people, it really takes a conscious effort on my part. minsan nakakaingit yun mga naturally "outgoing" people kasi spontaneous sila. madali gumawa ng conversation and people warm up to them more easily. on the other hand, i have to think everything i'm going to say or do over and over in advance especially if i am meeting someone for the first time just to make sure that things will go smoothly. nakakapagod rin pag minsan pero iniisip ko na lang kailangan ko lang gawin ito kung hindi walang mangyayari sa akin.

**wildthing** · November 27th, 2007 01:23 PM

^ actually, I was raised "OLD SCHOOL STYLE" -- papaluin ka lang pag ayaw mong sumunod sa utos magulang mo ... so kailangan alisin ang hiya pag-inutusan hehehe

pero sa ngayon kasi "physical pain" is often no longer used to "encourage" kids to grow... kaya naglabasan yung discipline ng dev ped... wherein they use several techniques (non violent most of the times) to help the timely development ng bata.

i guess the medical profession is "just too crowded" they had to have niche marketing and reposition themselves so that they become "marketable" .... grabe nga ang haba ng pila sa mga dev ped, we have a 3 weeks lead time for the appointment schedule!!!