Career or family

[jansky]

[SIZE=2] Ano kayang halaga ng tagumpay sa career if it has been achieved at the
expense of the family. What profit does a man have kung mawawala naman ang
kanyang pamilya? OO nga, meron siyang salapi na milyon ang halaga,
magandang mansyon, travels around the world, and cavorts with an array of
girls, women, and ladies, pero naman ang kapalit kung ikaw naman ay being
hated by your daughters and is the mortal enemy of your sons. Can success
in career really make up for failure at home? Which then is more important,
wealth or family. A great number of us would readily say family. Pero totoo
kaya na ang ating sinasabi ay ating ginagawa. But do we walk our talk ika
nga? Are we willing to translate our mindsets into concrete actions? Day by
day, we are bombarded by 52 million dollar questions, Sino ba ang mahalaga
ang mga anak ko o ang trabaho ko.

To my fellow employees, I don't know how you react out there or would
Answer my questions. In my case, as an accountant who always spend overtime
in the office to be able to submit deadline reports come month-end or
cut-off period, I have made unforgivable mistakes. If I have to live my
life again, I would need to overhaul my priorities, to rechannel the
efforts that I Have been exerting with passions and commitment . I thought
all along na ang Lahat ng ginagawa kong pagpapahirap at pagtratrabaho to
the max to get a promotion, I am doing it all for the family. But I was
wrong. Today I know better. When my wife or daughter is on the phone I make
sure that I attend to them first, never mind if there are urgent things to
attend or papers to submit to my superior, after all they can wait for 10
minutes...but if I deny the 10 minutes that is so important to them, it
would have a lasting effect than to my Boss who might be replaced in a
couple of years.

My family is my top priority , period. It is not a choice between my family
and my career. MY FAMILY IS THE REASON WHY I NEED A CAREER. My career will
come and go, employers can come and go but one's family Will remain even
beyond the grave . They even take care of our graves. Noon kahit mayroon
affairs sa school ang aking mga anak, I'd tend to preponderate toward the
official duty and delegate the affairs of my kids to my wife. I used to
operate on the paradigm that I should focus on the duty first before
pleasure . Now I know that MY first duty is toward my loved ones. I should
put my time where my heart belongs.

Today if I will to do it all over again, I'd reverse my priorities. My son
will only graduate once in elementary and only once in high school, I will
make sure I will be there, I will file my vacation leave and if my Boss
rejected it because I need to attend to a company function where I am
required to attend, I would still go to my kids graduation no matter what
the consequences are. This time I am willing to become an average corporate
officer, a so-so business executive but a great father. I'm willing to be
reprimanded by my Boss for a late report but not hated by a daughter for
not remembering her birthday every year.....na ilalabas ko siya the whole
day and cherish the moments every minute dahil alam ko hindi ko na
maibabalik ito kapag lumaki na siya at kung gawin ko man later, baka huli
na. There are more important matters compared to corporate business
meetings, Family peace and love- these are the ones that matter most.
BUT I SPEAK ONLY FOR MYSELF. I DO NOT IMPOSE VALUES ON YOU GUYS OUT THERE.

If you think possessions are more important than family, go ahead. Spend 20
hours in the office, bring home your corporate work. Neglect your wife..
don't spend quality time with your kids. Don't attend important family
gatherings. Find work that you are away for a week and only meet your
family every week-ends, oh what a waste. Delegate raising the children to
your spouse. Leave the young kids to the nanny. Let the driver bring your
kids to school. Ask someone to represent in your son college graduation. If
you find something wrong at home, don't mind it, anyway your concentration
is in your job. You have your career remember? Don't greet your father and
mother on their anniversary. Spend all your time in the company. Baka
mawala ang tiwala ng Boss mo sa iyo sayang ang pinagpaguran mo ng matagal.
If you have aging parents, don't visit them. enjoy your career in
isolation. Drink, dance, be merry, But in the end, you lose all the love
ones who love you more, after neglecting them. No wife, no kids, no family.
you are alone and pretending to be happy. don't blame your company. don't
lay the Burden on your Boss. Hindi ba, You made the choice? You opted to
put more value on your career. Dahil sabi mo pinaghirapan mo lahat ito and
pangarap mo na ito simula pagkabata dahil mahirap ka lang ikamu...gusto
mong yumaman. You gambled and you lost.

I know of an executive na masyadong depressed...every week lang siyang
umuwi sa pamilya niya. Week-ends lang niya nalalaro ang mga bata kung
minsan required pa mag-stay ng sabado sa office, who finds no meaning in
his life, he's got the money, a beautiful wife who according to him might
be hiding something from him (you know what I mean) and the kids are not
genuinely closed to him, for no apparent reason he had pulled the trigger
to his head. He's got everything and he lost everything. that is the
tragedy of it all.
As for me, I know better. After all the pains, the burdens of mistaken
priorities, I have made my choice. Anytime, anywhere, my family comes
first. My career, my business, my outside clients, all my other pursuits
are only means to the end of all my sacrifices, my wife, my sons, my
daughters, my family. I shall thus manage my various objectives well. there
shall not be conflicting objective anymore. For I now know clearly my
priorities and shall be faithful to them. I shall be willing to give them
up; excess money, much comfort, travels, and girls for and in the name of
the family. That is simple and straightforward.

PS. Are you aware that if we die tomorrow, the company that we are working
for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family we left
behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of
it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our own family, an unwise
investment indeed, don't you think? And we often treat strangers and
coworkers better than members of our family.



for me my family is my career
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[1D4LV]

i would agree. your career is temporary, but your family is permanent. if building a temporary one (career) would entail you to fail on the permanent one (family), its not worth it.

trust me... i've been there, done that.

[badsekktor]

i agree...... a career is just a job.... and a job is just a temporary solution to financial security.... in other words, you can always have another job or ways to provide you financial stability, but you can never replace your family...

[beereo]

Tama ka. SALUDO AKO SA IYO! Life is a matter of choice. You can't have everything in a silver platter. It's either you choose the love, care and respect that your family can give you or the financial gains that you can get out of your dedication to your career. The former is lasting, whereas, the latter is fleeting. One day, if I become a family man, I'll make sure that every single drop of my precious time will be spent with my family.


aanhin ang maganda at magarang tsikot kung hindi naman sasakay sa iyo ang mga taong pinakamamahal mo.

[v6dreamer]

Lots of men and women can balance a career and family. A big key is a good husband and a wife that equally helps out with all the duties of parenting. Another key is finding a job that does not require overtime having a high profile job does not mean you have to work 16 hour's day, 7 days a week. I just make the most of my evenings and weekends with my wife, daughter's and son and occasionally take vacation days so all of us can do anythings all together! It will work out, things always do.

[drey]

Di ko nabasa.. hehehe...

Advice ko... Watch CLICK by Adam Sandler.

[Sarsi]

+1 to TS.

I recall an incident where i was called for a job interview. The HR director asked me, if who is my priority, my family or career/job. I told him that it will be my family, first and foremost. And according to him, he's my exact opposite, meaning, he prioritizes his career/job rather than his family.

I left the interview even if we're not finish yet. I told him, i'll not be a slave of work.

Sayang, that's a car dealership where i really wanted to work then.

[jansky]

yap, sometimes opportunity knocks but in exchange of what ?? a family

[Skidrow]

For me, success is being able to balance everything in life. We need financial as well as emotional support.