Bakit ka badtrip today?

[_Cathy_]

It's just really a guess based on what you post sa forums. I could be [very] wrong of course hehe.

Pero it sounds like you want to be in a relationship but can't find the right guy talaga...

Yung turn ons ko are just turn ons. I don't expect or look for a guy that has all the qualities I like. Of course I have my non-negotiable qualities such as good education and values. That's why I fell so hard for crush because he had ALL the qualities I liked in a guy and so much more. I did not think it was even possible.

Don't be discouraged cath. Punta ka na sa states kasi bagay sayo Westerner dapat ang maging asawa moPinoys are Insecure, mama's boy and no match to your personality.


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Si crush naman pinoy but he can control or manage me. Pero yun nga, bihira mga katulad niya. Pero sa office mga kasundo ko nga mga foreigner kaya close ako sa mga boss ko. Yung mga officemates ko na iba ilag sila sa foreigner ako naman I gravitate towards them. Mas masarap kausap at kasama e.

Cathy:


lifestyle mo estimate ko 70K to 100K per month (that's your dog, your shopping, personal care etc)

so the guy has to be making close to 200K per month at least

height?

your standards are way more than height

after describing your "crush" for 12 months i guess it's clear to everyone here how high your standards are

You of all people should know that before I met crush, the last guy I fell in love with was no Adonis. Diba sinasabi niyo nababaliw na ko. What is wrong with me?

Simple naman lifestyle ko e. Hindi nga ko mahilig mag travel. Di naman ako mahilig sa damit at sapatos. But I do have to admit that I give my fat lab the most that my money can afford. She has the top doctors in PH and she eats better than I do hahaha!

I taught my daughter how to drive when she was eight manual tranny pa, and hirap sya sa handbrake. Now shes 13 gusto nya monty dahil Matic na and electronic parking brakes.. she once said bagay daw sa mga tamad na driver[emoji12]


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Are you kidding me? How can an 8 yr old reach the pedals? I don't know any 8 or even 10 yr old that can reach the pedals and see the hood of the car.

[jut703]

So you're practically telling me patulan ko na lang kahit sino dahil 30s na ko. Kahit addict o walang trabaho o 4 na anak?

Wala ako early 20s na papatol sa 40s if not for money

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I don't think Mr. Big meant any disrespect. The follow up article he posted is a very good and objective discussion on the dynamics of age and attractiveness.

I do sincerely wish you the best in your love life, but it also helps to be grounded with the reality that as women go past their mid-30s, attractiveness drops and more critically, so does fertility. There will always be outliers (as the article recognizes), but on average - what Mr. Big described holds true.

That doesn't mean that you have to go the opposite extreme and settle for the next bloke you see. The standards you set for the guy you want to end up with are admirable - family-centric, religiously grounded, tall alpha man who earns enough to allow you a housewife lifestyle - but it does narrow down the pool quite a lot.

As the song says though, "love moves in mysterious ways". Who knows, in the next few days, week, or months, you might meet someone new who'll be as attracted to you as you to him, or perhaps you might suddenly see an old friend in a different light and he might reciprocate.


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[MR_BIG18]

Yung turn ons ko are just turn ons. I don't expect or look for a guy that has all the qualities I like. Of course I have my non-negotiable qualities such as good education and values. That's why I fell so hard for crush because he had ALL the qualities I liked in a guy and so much more. I did not think it was even possible.



Si crush naman pinoy but he can control or manage me. Pero yun nga, bihira mga katulad niya. Pero sa office mga kasundo ko nga mga foreigner kaya close ako sa mga boss ko. Yung mga officemates ko na iba ilag sila sa foreigner ako naman I gravitate towards them. Mas masarap kausap at kasama e.



You of all people should know that before I met crush, the last guy I fell in love with was no Adonis. Diba sinasabi niyo nababaliw na ko. What is wrong with me?

Simple naman lifestyle ko e. Hindi nga ko mahilig mag travel. Di naman ako mahilig sa damit at sapatos. But I do have to admit that I give my fat lab the most that my money can afford. She has the top doctors in PH and she eats better than I do hahaha!



Are you kidding me? How can an 8 yr old reach the pedals? I don't know any 8 or even 10 yr old that can reach the pedals and see the hood of the car.

cars pedals? pwede..my 9yo daugther is 5ft...kasing taas ng wife ko.

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[dreamur]

^^^ouch! Kaya pala koya ng koya mga babes sa akin... [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23]

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[_Cathy_]

I don't think Mr. Big meant any disrespect. The follow up article he posted is a very good and objective discussion on the dynamics of age and attractiveness.

I do sincerely wish you the best in your love life, but it also helps to be grounded with the reality that as women go past their mid-30s, attractiveness drops and more critically, so does fertility. There will always be outliers (as the article recognizes), but on average - what Mr. Big described holds true.

That doesn't mean that you have to go the opposite extreme and settle for the next bloke you see. The standards you set for the guy you want to end up with are admirable - family-centric, religiously grounded, tall alpha man who earns enough to allow you a housewife lifestyle - but it does narrow down the pool quite a lot.

As the song says though, "love moves in mysterious ways". Who knows, in the next few days, week, or months, you might meet someone new who'll be as attracted to you as you to him, or perhaps you might suddenly see an old friend in a different light and he might reciprocate.


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I am not being realistic because I am low value because of my age and I am looking for a high value man?

What is happening to world if it is considered high standards to want a guy that is tall and has good values? I only want an alpha male because I need a man with a strong personality that can control me. High standards would be my unicorn friend who only dates men from specific families. Good for her that she finally had her first BF in December but she "settled" for a lawyer that is kapampangan (which used to be a non negotiable for her). I dress simple and I drive myself to work everyday. I have friends and cousins who refuse to drive and have to be driven around. How princess can you get diba?

My Mom told me at the minimum I should marry a guy that can sustain my current lifestyle. I understand where she is coming from because they did their best to provide for me only to have a "harder" life when I marry? I think no parent wants that for their child. But I do not have a high maintenance lifestyle. It is so frustrating how people view me as opposite of what I am really am in real life

[_Cathy_]

cars pedals? pwede..my 9yo daugther is 5ft...kasing taas ng wife ko.

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What?!?!?! 9 yrs old 5' tall?!? Maybe your kid is exceptionally tall for her age? O malalaki na talaga mga bata ngayon?

[jut703]

I am not being realistic because I am low value because of my age and I am looking for a high value man?

What is happening to world if it is considered high standards to want a guy that is tall and has good values? I only want an alpha male because I need a man with a strong personality that can control me. High standards would be my unicorn friend who only dates men from specific families. Good for her that she finally had her first BF in December but she "settled" for a lawyer that is kapampangan (which used to be a non negotiable for her). I dress simple and I drive myself to work everyday. I have friends and cousins who refuse to drive and have to be driven around. How princess can you get diba?

My Mom told me at the minimum I should marry a guy that can sustain my current lifestyle. I understand where she is coming from because they did their best to provide for me only to have a "harder" life when I marry? I think no parent wants that for their child. But I do not have a high maintenance lifestyle. It is so frustrating how people view me as opposite of what I am really am in real life

All I was saying was that as time passes, the chance of finding the ideal man you're looking for gets lower. I'm not saying that you should lower your standards.

The best case scenario which I hope for you is that everything goes according to your plan and you find your dream guy and you get married and have the family you've dreamed of.

But in preparing for the worst case, you just have to be okay with the possibility that maintaining the standards you have for men might mean that you go past child-bearing age without getting married. I'm not being defeatist, but it's a possibility. From what you've posted though, that's a better scenario than simply settling and marrying whoever comes along. And that's good because at least you stuck to what you wanted.

Now as to why people here have a different impression of you than what you say you are in real life, remember that almost everyone here has never met you and only form their impression of you from what you post. Your online persona could be very different from who you are in person, and it's not unlikely that people will perceive you differently online than they would've if they met you in person.

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[Wh1stl3r]

*Cathy
I'd also consider what I think the opposite *** wants. Hard to say this but like work, there's also competition in finding a partner. If you don't have high standards for physical traits that's great. But I don't think you can ask that of normal guys.

If the only guys you can like without settling are "alpha" males, you should also give thought to what type of women those guys want. Then work on becoming that. I imagine guys like those will want a woman who are befitting of their "alpha" status.

If you think you already fit that description, then what is left is just exposure. I imagine chances are a lot better if you go out of your normal circle and meet new people regularly. Guys can't date you if they don't see you.

[MR_BIG18]

What?!?!?! 9 yrs old 5' tall?!? Maybe your kid is exceptionally tall for her age? O malalaki na talaga mga bata ngayon?

diba may mga niece ako na 5 10 at 6ft..wala pang 15yo

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[BratPAQ]

Printing and encoding of license card here at LTO is average of 7 to 9 minutes per card. Since 7am to 4pm, they have printed a whooping total of 120 cards. Wow, just wow.

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[mda]

snip

+1 to what jut said.

[jut703]

+1 to what jut said.

Weird, bakit "snip" yung lumalabas?



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[dreamur]

Weird, bakit "snip" yung lumalabas?



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Too long ang content bro. If you click the arrow up icon at the upper right, displayed lahat.

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[jut703]

Too long ang content bro. If you click the arrow up icon at the upper right, displayed lahat.

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Thanks bro. Learned something new in Tapatalk again. [emoji851]

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[dreamur]

True story cat...

A tall, pretty, mestiza got pregnant at an early age (18). Found out her bf wasnt the man of her dreams, left him and met her alpha. Discovered he was married so she went to the US and married a fil-am at the age of 35. Now they live happily ever after.

Moral of the story: go out and take risks, try and try again until you succeed.

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[mda]

Weird, bakit "snip" yung lumalabas?



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Haha! Your reply was a bit long, ni cut ko nalang din and I put 'snip'. I do think your reply accurately sums up din what I think about this particular topic :D

[MR_BIG18]

True story cat...

A tall, pretty, mestiza got pregnant at an early age (18). Found out her bf wasnt the man of her dreams, left him and met her alpha. Discovered he was married so she went to the US and married a fil-am at the age of 35. Now they live happily ever after.

Moral of the story: go out and take risks, try and try again until you succeed.

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fil am...baka BBc pa..tsk tsk, no contest tayong mga pinoy..

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[_Cathy_]

All I was saying was that as time passes, the chance of finding the ideal man you're looking for gets lower. I'm not saying that you should lower your standards.

The best case scenario which I hope for you is that everything goes according to your plan and you find your dream guy and you get married and have the family you've dreamed of.

But in preparing for the worst case, you just have to be okay with the possibility that maintaining the standards you have for men might mean that you go past child-bearing age without getting married. I'm not being defeatist, but it's a possibility. From what you've posted though, that's a better scenario than simply settling and marrying whoever comes along. And that's good because at least you stuck to what you wanted.

Now as to why people here have a different impression of you than what you say you are in real life, remember that almost everyone here has never met you and only form their impression of you from what you post. Your online persona could be very different from who you are in person, and it's not unlikely that people will perceive you differently online than they would've if they met you in person.

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I am the most low maintenance GF you will ever meet. Normal women would call their Dad or BF when they are in trouble. My Dad isn't here but my then BF never offered to help me. One time my car stalled in the middle of Pasong Tamo, it was a guy friend who was then working in San Juan in the middle of a meeting who offered to go to Pasong Tamo to help me! That was actually the point I fell hard for that guy. My BF will NEVER do something like that. In our 5 yrs together he NEVER once picked me up or brought me to school even when I had car trouble. Never ko siya maasahan, mas maasahan ko pa friends niya sa kanya. 90% ng labas namin was with his family, well because he always had no money. The one time I asked him for a favor to buy me 2 Lachi's sans rival in Davao, he only bought me one because he thought that was enough. WTF? Think of what the other person wants, not what you want! It's not as if I asked him for a 5 carat diamond ring. He used to help me with my homework but when I couldn't get it he would call me stupid and make me feel like the biggest idiot that I would start crying and would continue with his tirade (mahina ako sa Statistics)

BUT he was intelligent, patient and we shared the same values so I tried to look at his positives. But in the end I felt so sorry for myself and realized I would rather be alone than be with someone I hated.

What was the straw that broke the camel's back? I feel uncomfortable when I am driving and a man is my passenger (with exceptions such as sick or senior etc) My BF, Mom and I went to our house in Laguna, inabutan kami ng dilim and I can't drive at SLEX at night because of my eyesight (severe astigmatism). I asked him if he could please drive and he refused saying his license is expired. First of all, a normal guy would offer to drive. Second, how irresponsible to let your DL expire when all you do is stay at home. I freaking lost it and I was crying while driving out of frustration. He can't even drive for me, when he saw how hard it was for me to drive.

I am NEVER going into a relationship with a weak personality man because I didn't like who I was when I was with him. Feeling ko karma ko siya because I was btch to men when I was younger

*Cathy
I'd also consider what I think the opposite *** wants. Hard to say this but like work, there's also competition in finding a partner. If you don't have high standards for physical traits that's great. But I don't think you can ask that of normal guys.

If the only guys you can like without settling are "alpha" males, you should also give thought to what type of women those guys want. Then work on becoming that. I imagine guys like those will want a woman who are befitting of their "alpha" status.

If you think you already fit that description, then what is left is just exposure. I imagine chances are a lot better if you go out of your normal circle and meet new people regularly. Guys can't date you if they don't see you.

Are you saying the worth of a woman is equal to her looks? My friend told me a woman's education or breeding or culture are worthless to men but what is important is looks and performance in bed. So look good and be excellent in bed to snag a guy that will provide the good life. I still believe there are guys beyond that and crush is a prime example.

In bold ,knowing your league applies for both men and women. Are you saying that a 5 foot tall, 200 lb, dark skinned, balding guy with a mediocre career deserves a 5 foot tall, 100 lb, mestiza with a successful career? I don't think so. Even if unattractive guy ha loads of money, an eligible women (such as my unicorn friend who has money of her own) will look for at least an equal.

I want to quit using the term alpha. I just want a man that can control, handle and manage me. My family and friends tell me that's a guy who has a strong personality. I was quite surprised when my guy friends in the office said that I can be very stubborn and everyone gives in to me because when I want something I have to get it. I have a very extreme personality so either I am stubborn or submissive. It just so happened that I met someone that had all the qualities I wanted and so much more. But that does not mean it is all I require in a partner. I know where I stand naman. As you guys have said, mababa na market value. Kaya I was very happy that someone as perfect as crush came into my life. Even my high standard unicorn friend (this person rejected extremely eligible men) thinks crush is perfect.

There are guys at the board who fit the "perfect man" description. I think my German boss is also perfect. Pero syempre pinaka perfect si crush.

I want to be 50 kgs because crush told me something that kind of had a big impact on me Seriously, ever since I gained weight I don't feel like going out or dressing up anymore and I miss that.

Ang babait ng mga taga Tsikot. If only I were not shy and would like to keep my anonymity I would have invited you guys for drinks. It's really nice to hear a man's perspective on things.

[MR_BIG18]

I am the most low maintenance GF you will ever meet. Normal women would call their Dad or BF when they are in trouble. My Dad isn't here but my then BF never offered to help me. One time my car stalled in the middle of Pasong Tamo, it was a guy friend who was then working in San Juan in the middle of a meeting who offered to go to Pasong Tamo to help me! That was actually the point I fell hard for that guy. My BF will NEVER do something like that. In our 5 yrs together he NEVER once picked me up or brought me to school even when I had car trouble. Never ko siya maasahan, mas maasahan ko pa friends niya sa kanya. 90% ng labas namin was with his family, well because he always had no money. The one time I asked him for a favor to buy me 2 Lachi's sans rival in Davao, he only bought me one because he thought that was enough. WTF? Think of what the other person wants, not what you want! It's not as if I asked him for a 5 carat diamond ring. He used to help me with my homework but when I couldn't get it he would call me stupid and make me feel like the biggest idiot that I would start crying and would continue with his tirade (mahina ako sa Statistics)

BUT he was intelligent, patient and we shared the same values so I tried to look at his positives. But in the end I felt so sorry for myself and realized I would rather be alone than be with someone I hated.

What was the straw that broke the camel's back? I feel uncomfortable when I am driving and a man is my passenger (with exceptions such as sick or senior etc) My BF, Mom and I went to our house in Laguna, inabutan kami ng dilim and I can't drive at SLEX at night because of my eyesight (severe astigmatism). I asked him if he could please drive and he refused saying his license is expired. First of all, a normal guy would offer to drive. Second, how irresponsible to let your DL expire when all you do is stay at home. I freaking lost it and I was crying while driving out of frustration. He can't even drive for me, when he saw how hard it was for me to drive.

I am NEVER going into a relationship with a weak personality man because I didn't like who I was when I was with him. Feeling ko karma ko siya because I was btch to men when I was younger



Are you saying the worth of a woman is equal to her looks? My friend told me a woman's education or breeding or culture are worthless to men but what is important is looks and performance in bed. So look good and be excellent in bed to snag a guy that will provide the good life. I still believe there are guys beyond that and crush is a prime example.

In bold ,knowing your league applies for both men and women. Are you saying that a 5 foot tall, 200 lb, dark skinned, balding guy with a mediocre career deserves a 5 foot tall, 100 lb, mestiza with a successful career? I don't think so. Even if unattractive guy ha loads of money, an eligible women (such as my unicorn friend who has money of her own) will look for at least an equal.

I want to quit using the term alpha. I just want a man that can control, handle and manage me. My family and friends tell me that's a guy who has a strong personality. I was quite surprised when my guy friends in the office said that I can be very stubborn and everyone gives in to me because when I want something I have to get it. I have a very extreme personality so either I am stubborn or submissive. It just so happened that I met someone that had all the qualities I wanted and so much more. But that does not mean it is all I require in a partner. I know where I stand naman. As you guys have said, mababa na market value. Kaya I was very happy that someone as perfect as crush came into my life. Even my high standard unicorn friend (this person rejected extremely eligible men) thinks crush is perfect.

There are guys at the board who fit the "perfect man" description. I think my German boss is also perfect. Pero syempre pinaka perfect si crush.

I want to be 50 kgs because crush told me something that kind of had a big impact on me Seriously, ever since I gained weight I don't feel like going out or dressing up anymore and I miss that.

Ang babait ng mga taga Tsikot. If only I were not shy and would like to keep my anonymity I would have invited you guys for drinks. It's really nice to hear a man's perspective on things.

my perspective? you wont like it, you know me, i tell it as it is...wla nang paligoy ligoy..



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[Wh1stl3r]

*Cathy
Far from it. Let me rephrase what I wanted to get across. I'm talking about dating. Guys do fall in love with a woman's character for sure. But how do you get noticed in a sea of other eligible bachelorettes?

That falls on the physical unfortunately. Guys have preferences too, just as you have a preference for taller guys.

In a perfect world, there would be no preconcieved ideas on what is desirable. Why are darker skinned girls considered less desirable in this country? Why can't short guys date taller girls? These are silly concepts that have been passed on from generation to generation. But the general majority still subscribe to such ideas.

What I'm trying to say is I'd just try to be the best version of myself. Eat well, get enough exercise, sleep enough and on time, take concrete steps to make having a positive view of life easier.

If you feel good in your own skin it shows. Nothing is more attractive than a woman who (pardon my French) has her sh** together.

I'm not discounting the possibility that some unicorn guy could meet you by chance someday. But there's no harm in taking proactive steps to increase the chances of meeting even less rare people who could be just as good a partner.