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[ninjababez]

I still can't access tsikot via our home's pldt dsl wifi

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[EQAddict]

Tiger woods is not in the lead anymore.....

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[attorney]

Tiger woods is not in the lead anymore.....

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That trusty old putter isnt that trusty in the 2nd round[emoji23]


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[_Cathy_]

I really hate it when my Mom picks on my second Mom. Wala naman laban sa kanya yung tao and then she accuses me of taking my second Mom's side all the time. Natural!

She had to make a fuzz about the FCKING glass mark on the dining table. Always nitpicking for faullts I'm definitely not leaving my second Mom when I go to the US

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I really hate it when my Mom picks on my second Mom. Wala naman laban sa kanya yung tao and then she accuses me of taking my second Mom's side all the time. Natural!

She had to make a fuzz about the FCKING glass mark on the dining table. Always nitpicking for faullts I'm definitely not leaving my second Mom when I go to the US

Ayaan mo na sila matatanda. Heheh.
Small bickering among themsepves that they can solve.

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[_Cathy_]

Ayaan mo na sila matatanda. Heheh.
Small bickering among themsepves that they can solve.

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It's so stressful. It's not small bickering, it's away na one sided. It's my Mom who always starts it. She always finds fault in my second Mom, nakakaawa na. And then she accuses me of always taking the side of my second Mom and I am giving her hypertension because of that. Totoo naman na siya ang mali e

Sometimes I am really tempted to move out with my second Mom just as so she can't pick on her anymore. But what can I do? She's my mother and I can't leave her

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Maybe the reason why napapaginitan ng mom mo si 2nd is dahil palagi mo syang kinakampihan?

Na thretreathen sya / selos. Talk to them and tell they need to stop or else you will move out (by yourself). Tingnan mo magiging reaction nila.

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[_Cathy_]

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Maybe the reason why napapaginitan ng mom mo si 2nd is dahil palagi mo syang kinakampihan?

Na thretreathen sya / selos. Talk to them and tell they need to stop or else you will move out (by yourselves). Tingnan mo magiging reaction nila.

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That's the exact word. pinagiinitan. Awang awa ako sa second Mom ko. Kinakampihan ko kasi Mom ko naman talaga ang mali. My Mom knows that I cannot move out because my second Mom has a medical need that requires a lot of attention. If I left my second Mom with my Mom, I don't think my Mom will attend to my second Mom. My Mom does not even contribute to the medical expenses, I pay for all that. Kaya alam ko papabayaan niya talaga if I left. I will not be able to forgive myself if anything happens to my second Mom.

I already talked to my Mom about her being so mean to my second Mom and she gives me that line that I am giving her hypertension. She really can't blame me if I love my second Mom a lot. My Mom never even had to change my fcking diapers

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That's the exact word. pinagiinitan. Awang awa ako sa second Mom ko. Kinakampihan ko kasi Mom ko naman talaga ang mali. My Mom knows that I cannot move out because my second Mom has a medical need that requires a lot of attention. If I left my second Mom with my Mom, I don't think my Mom will attend to my second Mom. My Mom does not even contribute to the medical expenses, I pay for all that. Kaya alam ko papabayaan niya talaga if I left. I will not be able to forgive myself if anything happens to my second Mom.

I already talked to my Mom about her being so mean to my second Mom and she gives me that line that I am giving her hypertension. She really can't blame me if I love my second Mom a lot. My Mom never even had to change my fcking diapers

Just an idea...

Your mom is the one pushing you to go to states.
Your mom know 2nd has medical issue and needs someone to look after.
Your mom tells that she is having hypertension because you always take sideof the 2nd.

Why not ask your mom to do a compromise.
You will go to states (for x amount of time that you yourself only know) but on the condition that they will take care for the mean time your 2nd and be NICE to her.

If they can't accept that, then tell them to forget about the US thing ever and dont pressure you anymore. Put them on the spot to make a decision para matapos na. If they accept it, then may sagot ka na kung sino ang titingin sa 2nd mom mo. Put your foot down.

What will you get after this? Realization kung ano ang next move mo since may concrete evidence ka na sa mangyayari at hindi puro kuro kuro na "i dont think"..




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[_Cathy_]

Just an idea...

Your mom is the one pushing you to go to states.
Your mom know 2nd has medical issue and needs someone to look after.
Your mom tells that she is having hypertension because you always take sideof the 2nd.

Why not ask your mom to do a compromise.
You will go to states (for x amount of time that you yourself only know) but on the condition that they will take care for the mean time your 2nd and be NICE to her.

If they can't accept that, then tell them to forget about the US thing ever and dont pressure you anymore. Put them on the spot to make a decision para matapos na. If they accept it, then may sagot ka na kung sino ang titingin sa 2nd mom mo. Put your foot down.

What will you get after this? Realization kung ano ang next move mo since may concrete evidence ka na sa mangyayari at hindi puro kuro kuro na "i dont think"..

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I know my mother. She will NEVER be nice to my second Mom. I already told her that I don't want to leave the US because of my 2nd, and it came straight from my Mom that she will not take care of my 2nd. I do understand because she is also old and not in perfect health. And you know what is worse? She blames my 2nd for ruining my future because it's my 2nd who is holding me back from leaving. WOW TALAGA! Can you imagine how that could have affected my 2nd emotionally, and she says that in front of other people at home

There was even a time when my second Mom was in really bad shape medically and I saw ZERO sympathy for my mother. I cried and begged her to show a little compassion, pero matigas Mommy ko. I asked her in one of our arguments, bakit sagad sa buto galit niya sa second Mom ko. When it fact she owes her a lot because my second Mom took over the responsibility of taking care of me. She would not been able to have her career if it weren't for my second Mom. And she was the one who insisted on having a career. My Dad preferred for her to stay home and take care of her child BUT NO, she prefers to be in the office

That's why I took my 2nd Mom to the best doctor that I know of. I am hoping that she will be cured before I leave for the US. But I will not leave until she is better because I know my Mom will not look after her. My Auntie already told me that she will work on it para makasunod yung 2nd ko.

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I know my mother. She will NEVER be nice to my second Mom. I already told her that I don't want to leave the US because of my 2nd, and it came straight from my Mom that she will not take care of my 2nd. I do understand because she is also old and not in perfect health. And you know what is worse? She blames my 2nd for ruining my future because it's my 2nd who is holding me back from leaving. WOW TALAGA! Can you imagine how that could have affected my 2nd emotionally, and she says that in front of other people at home

There was even a time when my second Mom was is really bad shape medically and I saw ZERO sympathy for her. I cried and begged her to show a little compassion, pero matigas Mommy ko. I asked her in one of our arguments, bakit sagad sa buto galit niya sa second Mom ko. When it fact she owes her a lot because my second Mom took over the responsibility of taking care of me. She would not been able to have her career if it weren't for my second Mom. And she was the one who insisted on having a career. My Dad preferred for her to stay home and take care of her child BUT NO, she prefers to be in the office

That's why I took my 2nd Mom to the best doctor that I know of. I am hoping that she will be cured before I leave for the US. But I will not leave until she is better because I know my Mom will not look after her. My Auntie already told me that she will work on it para makasunod yung 2nd ko.

Then tell to your mom that she should forget about the US thing since she wont play nice with your 2nd. If she was nice to her (2nd) then tell her that the whole US thing could have been resolved by now. And it was her (1st) that was really holding you back hence the current situation of a stalemate... It is all about changing perspective. Malay mo, lumambot bigla puso.

Enter hypertension... Hehehe.

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[_Cathy_]

Then tell to your mom that she should forget about the US thing since she wont play nice with your 2nd. If she was nice to her (2nd) then tell her that the whole US thing could have been resolved by now. And it was her (1st) that was really holding you back hence the current situation of a stalemate... It is all about changing perspective. Malay mo, lumambot bigla puso.

Enter hypertension... Hehehe.

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Emotional blackmail talaga. She uses her hypertension when she does not want to hear me out. And when she sees me consoling or comforting my 2nd, lalo pa niya bibirahin ng kung ano ano

[chronicle]

Emotional blackmail talaga. She uses her hypertension when she does not want to hear me out. And when she sees me consoling or comforting my 2nd, lalo pa niya bibirahin ng kung ano ano

Well. Tell her straight na pakinggan ka or else... the issue wont get resolved.

Pakita mo na you've grown balls (lols) and is now ready to take over your next chapter and is waiting for answers on your question. Hula ko, your mom is seeing you as a child / pushover and wont hear you out since you are still under their domain (rules of the house).

(I may sound un-respectful on this post)

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[remzam]

Wala bang ibang kamaganak yung second mom mo that can take care of her IF you go to the US? Wala syang ibang bahay?

Di mawawala yang small away na mga ganyan kasi malalim pinaghuhugutan ng mom mo based sa kwento mo.

And it will only worsen kung umalis ka na sa bahay nyo.

But IF you go to the states and work there, baka win-win to everyone. Your mom will be happy because that's what she has been hoping to happen all this time. Your second mom will be happy because you can prove to her and your mom that she is not the reason for your career advancement. And you can probably send good money to your second mom for her medical condition.

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[_Cathy_]

Well. Tell her straight na pakinggan ka or else... the issue wont get resolved.

Pakita mo na you've grown balls (lols) and is now ready to take over your next chapter and is waiting for answers on your question. Hula ko, your mom is seeing you as a child / pushover and wont hear you out since you are still under their domain (rules of the house).

(I may sound un-respectful on this post)

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I don't take offense. My Mom respects me, in fact she lets me make all the decisions (which sometimes I don't really want) She is a good mother and I know I have my faults towards her also. My friends do tell me I am very lucky with my parents. It's just that when it comes to my 2nd ang sama ng ugali niya. She is only like that with my 2nd but she is nice to other people. That really frustrates me a lot. I think it does stem from jealousy and insecurity towards my 2nd. But she brought that upon herself. She chose to be a career woman over being a housewife.

Wala bang ibang kamaganak yung second mom mo that can take care of her IF you go to the US? Wala syang ibang bahay?

Di mawawala yang small away na mga ganyan kasi malalim pinaghuhugutan ng mom mo based sa kwento mo.

And it will only worsen kung umalis ka na sa bahay nyo.

But IF you go to the states and work there, baka win-win to everyone. Your mom will be happy because that's what she has been hoping to happen all this time. Your second mom will be happy because you can prove to her and your mom that she is not the reason for your career advancement. And you can probably send good money to your second mom for her medical condition.

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Wala. My 2nd dedicated her whole life to me. She never married and saw me as her own child. She is the eldest of all her siblings and has no contact with them anymore. My 2nd mom told me that I am her purpose in life, naiiyak nga ko while typing this. How I can pack up and leave a person who dedicated her whole life to me? When I am sick, it's not my Mom that I look for, it's my second mom.

Buti sana kung trivial arguments but sometimes she would go for days on end finding faults in my 2nd. My 2nd would just avoid seeing her altogether pero siya pa lalapit para maghanap ng away. And it's for the most fcking trivial things and she would say really hurtful words. And when I would intervene she would accuse me of taking sides - enter the hypertension.

Sometimes when she tries to find fault in my 2nd, ako na lang sumasalo because I know she won't get mad pag ako. For example, who left the door open or why something is "dirty", who threw something away etc. Pag 2nd ko yan, she will make a freaking big deal as if my 2nd committed murder

My problem is my 2nd's medical condition requires special attention. That is why I am at the doctor with her a lot. Sometimes once a week. I can't leave until she is completely healed because I am 100% that my Mom will not take care of her, my Mom already said that Hindi talaga masagot ng Mommy ko bakit sagad sa buto galit niya sa 2nd ko, and we live in one house.

[uls]

My problem is my 2nd's medical condition requires special attention. That is why I am at the doctor with her a lot. Sometimes once a week. I can't leave until she is completely healed because I am 100% that my Mom will not take care of her, my Mom already said that Hindi talaga masagot ng Mommy ko bakit sagad sa buto galit niya sa 2nd ko, and we live in one house.

even if that present health problem is healed, sooner or later another health problem will arise coz she's aging

sorry to say this but it looks like you can't leave talaga habang buhay pa siya

[uls]

unless you're willing to fly back everytime there's a medical emergency

[_Cathy_]

even if that present health problem is healed, sooner or later another health problem will arise coz she's aging

sorry to say this but it looks like you can't leave talaga habang buhay pa siya

She has no major illness except for that problem with her veins. When that is healed, we expect her to be healthy and live a long quality life. Mahaba buhay sa genes niya LOL. My problem is if she will be able to fly to the US because the pressure and long flight might not be good for her condition.

unless you're willing to fly back everytime there's a medical emergency

That's why when my boss told me back in Q4 2015 about my expat assignment, I was very hesitant (I even made a thread about it LOL) That was a minimum stay of 2 yrs up to 5 yrs.

I guess it's a blessing that it did not push through, and my boss was surprised that I took it quite well. Otherwise kasi, I would not be able to take care of my second Mom. She was in bad shape in 2017. Good thing si Dr Cutie is doing a good job taking care of her now.

[chronicle]

So what is your next move cat?
You do realize that you are mirroring your 2nd mom's path right? Dedicating / making decisions who/what will be prioritized..

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[CVT]

So what is your next move cat?
You do realize that you are mirroring your 2nd mom's path right? Dedicating / making decisions who/what will be prioritized..

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Comelec is closed today...

Need to change my address/voting precinct...

One we're in now... Blockbuster every election day...

You're literally going to sweat it out ....