Rules In Love

[pnay_fickle_minded]

RULES IN LOVE

Do not fall in love every time you fall in bed.

Learn to detach emotionally.

*** does not equal commitment.

Do not revolve your entire life around him/her.

Addiction is bad for your health!

Do not cling, act needy or demand.

Doormats are for your feet, not your heart.

It's OK to say NO!

Do not grill them or their friends for information.

Master the art of LISTENING.

Treat him/her as you would your best friend.

Friendship creates long term love and comes before
***.

FORGET about fixing your partner. IT WILL NEVER
HAPPEN.

Your choice of partner is a reflection of who you are
and who you are not!

Enjoy the moment first. Live in the present.

Don't worry about the ex's or start naming your future
children.

NEVER read their journal or go through their
paperwork.

If you have no trust, you have no relationship.

Allow space and freedom between you.

DO NOT always be available.

Calling frequently is a turn off and signals
insecurity, neediness and control.

Open your eyes to lies and cheating, OR... close them,
justify the bad behavior, and live with the
consequences.

Little or no eye contact? Start walking. They won't
even notice your gone.

Anyone preoccupied with their physical appearance and
dress, usually have very little or nothing to offer
from within.

Look beyond the physical!

Never compromise your values.

If you OVER give, you will lose your lover and his
respect.

DO NOT LOSE YOUR IDENTITY.

December/May relationships are great.

However, seasons change and the May lover will sooner
or later, hear the call of Spring.

If someone REALLY wants to be with you, they will be.

Sleeping with a married man? Don't count on him
divorcing anytime soon.

State your personal rules in the very beginning or
expect them to be broken.

If they ask to be just friends, be just that and look
elsewhere for a love partner.

If someone wants to really be with you, they will.

If they keep giving reasons for not calling or say
they are extremely busy, GET THE HINT, leave them
alone.

Marriage before thirty is an inevitable celebration
for divorce.

Don't ever give up your friends for him/her.

If your partner one day leaves you, be sure you have
friends, money, a career and a life of your own which
you never gave up.

If you do not, who do you have to blame but yourself!

"Hopeless romantics are only hopeless in the eyes of
those who don't believe in romance"

[odell]

"Hopeless romantics are only hopeless in the eyes of those who don't believe in romance"

parang love 101

[kiper]

nakuha mo ba dell?

[Sarsi]

reminder para kay DS at FP reminder lang kasi you are the masters

(alam nyo na kung sino kayo)

[Jun aka Pekto]

I must be bored today.....*sigh*

Do not fall in love every time you fall in bed.
-That's true. In fact I slept in the den last night while my daughter slept with Mom

Learn to detach emotionally.
-We have absolutely nothing in common emotionally

*** does not equal commitment.
- True. Signing your paycheck to her equals committment..and the house....

Do not revolve your entire life around him/her.
- True. But if she tells me to stay home, I do it.

Addiction is bad for your health!
- Not sure what you mean. If you mean ***, I'm on a quota basis. No chance of getting addicted

Do not cling, act needy or demand.
- I'm not in a position to do any

It's OK to say NO!
- She does, unfortunately.

Do not grill them or their friends for information.
- I never do. But, I've chewed out my wife's friends for repeatedly sending chain emails. They're terrified to be alone with me and hang on to my wife because they know I don't hold back any punches if I'm pissed off at them.

Master the art of LISTENING.
- No choice in the matter. She doesn't really care so long as I don't start snoring

Treat him/her as you would your best friend.
- Always been that way

Friendship creates long term love and comes before ***.
- See above

FORGET about fixing your partner. IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN.
- So true. But she did shorten my leash a bit

Your choice of partner is a reflection of who you are and who you are not!
- Not sure where that fits in. We have nothing in common.

Don't worry about the ex's.
- My wife took care of that in Day 1. Anything about the ex is a big NO NO!

NEVER read their journal or go through their paperwork.
- She doesn't keep one.
- Also kinda reeks of the hopeless romantic

DO NOT always be available.
- Quota System

Calling frequently is a turn off and signals insecurity, neediness and control.
- I call once a week or every few days when I go abroad
- Also reeks of the hopeless romantic.

Open your eyes to lies and cheating
- That goes back to trust. We implicitly trust each other. I don't even have to wear my wedding ring when I travel abroad.

Little or no eye contact? Start walking. They won't even notice your gone.
- What eye contact?

Anyone preoccupied with their physical appearance and dress, usually have very little or nothing to offer from within.
- we're both jeans/shorts persons.

Look beyond the physical
- She must have. Why would she marry me

If you OVER give, you will lose your lover and his respect.
-Quota System

State your personal rules in the very beginning or expect them to be broken.
- Same... Wife took care of that in Day 1

If they ask to be just friends, be just that and look elsewhere for a love partner.
- It's mainly back in RP I got this a lot. So, I looked elsewhere

Marriage before thirty is an inevitable celebration for divorce.
- I disagree. Age by itself does not equate to long marriage or early divorce.
- Marriage before 21 may perhaps be an inevitable celebration for divorce

Don't ever give up your friends for him/her.
- I didn't. We (me and friends) merely gave up going out more
- She's got a lot more friends now than when she was single

"Hopeless romantics are only hopeless in the eyes of those who don't believe in romance"
- Baloney. Hopeless romantics have no idea how to raise a family or balance a checkbook. They're to be avoided at all costs.

Add: I'm kind of an old hand at this because we've had several of my wife's friends come over with their sob stories.

Also, most of those sob stories weren't from Pinays. Pinays are probably the least likely to be hopeless romantics because they're too busy working, taking care of the family, and do not tolerate any BS from the hubby. That's what makes them great wives.

[mamichula]

Don't fall in love period.

[chua_riwap]

Don't fall in love period.

Tama ka, Mami!

[Jun aka Pekto]

Don't fall in love period.

I tried that for a while when I was younger. But, the instinct to finally settle down was too strong as I got older.

[Lucius]

1. Don't be a fool.
2. Never kiss-*$$.
3. Quit being a wussy and get your pieces together.
4. Don't cry in front of the person.
5. Don't ever fall in love with a nobody.

[Jun aka Pekto]

5. Don't ever fall in love with a nobody.

I don't get this. Can you elaborate because I thought 99% of all people in the world are nobodies including myself and my wife.

Unless you're referring to someone with no ambition, just hangs around, a mooch, a leech, etc.