Originally Posted by
FullThrottle
Mahirap yan, mag-bf pa lang kayo hindi ka na masaya sa relationship nyo, paano pa kaya kung mapangasawa mo sya? Try to answer these questions: Are you sure that you still love the person? Do you see yourself being happily married with him in the future? Do you think he’ll make a responsible, loving & supportive husband and a loving father & good provider to your future children? The title of your thread has already answered the first question. What about the rest? If you answered no to all of them, I think it’s high time para makipag-cool off ka na muna so you can sort things out by yourself. It’s important that when you’re in a relationship, you have to be first and foremost, well, happy. The second important thing is that he should also be happy with you. If one of you is no longer happy, sooner or later that person will end up looking for someone else to fill in the emptiness. Why wait for that?
Pero sabi mo hindi ka makawala. Why? What’s holding you back? What’s so difficult with letting go when you know that you’re no longer happy? Is it because as you said, you hate arguments, so you’re not ready for this one major argument once you tell him that you want space? Or is it just too inconvenient to let go because of proximity (he’s an officemate/schoolmate, neighbor, belongs to the same circle of friends)?
Obviously he’s not meeting your expectations in a relationship. And maybe you’re not meeting his. IMO, you need some time without each other, so you can think clearly & hopefully find the answers to your own questions.