Dealing with my Anger after Wife Confessed Affair

[claRkEnt]

, four slashed sidewalls.

Supergluing the windshield wipers is also fun. especially these days when its raining often.

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ooops... bad suggestion... may madadamay pang ibang motorists kung sakaling maaksidente yan.

[CVT]

I'd rather give "karma & cosmic forces" a little personal helping hand.

If you happen to follow the guy's car to a mall, etc... why not give him a slashed tire or if you are feeling generous, four slashed sidewalls.

Supergluing the windshield wipers is also fun. especially these days when its raining often.

A brake fluid washover or a can of quickdry PINK pylox spray paint can be handy as well. Don't forget to do the headlights and alloy wheels in pink too.

OR if you a bit familiar with his car model, you can always drain the water from his radiator by removing the drain plug.

Ok sa alright itong mga suggestions na ito.... Talagang "Blowing Up Things For ????"...

6707:choir:

[mbeige]

I'd rather give "karma & cosmic forces" a little personal helping hand.

If you happen to follow the guy's car to a mall, etc... why not give him a slashed tire or if you are feeling generous, four slashed sidewalls.

Supergluing the windshield wipers is also fun. especially these days when its raining often.

A brake fluid washover or a can of quickdry PINK pylox spray paint can be handy as well. Don't forget to do the headlights and alloy wheels in pink too.

OR if you a bit familiar with his car model, you can always drain the water from his radiator by removing the drain plug.

This just proves, that one can be just as bad, or worse, than the original offending person. I suppose if the angry hubby took this route, the wife would not be able to choose between the two, if only maturity was the deciding factor. Two wrongs, do not make it right.

[creepy]

This just proves, that one can be just as bad, or worse, than the original offending person. I suppose if the angry hubby took this route, the wife would not be able to choose between the two, if only maturity was the deciding factor. Two wrongs, do not make it right.

"Commitment" should be the deciding factor, not maturity. So what if the other guy is more or less mature? I'm sure my grandfather is more mature than either of them but I don't think the wife would or should pick him.

Two wrongs don't make a right, but they sure feel good.

[ghosthunter]

You guys talk about "maturity" so easily because you are not at ground zero of the situation. Even imagining yourself in such a situation is not enough to know the kind of mental anguish such a situation can bring to a person. Be glad the person would be taking out his frustrations on inanimate objects rather than against people (wife or 3rd party guy).

Like I said, I've been there.

It takes a lot to stay focused on what you believe is important (family) and still more focus and determination when you try your fracking best to repair a dying marriage and plan for a future without your spouse.

[mbeige]

*Ghosthunter:

Well, if I'm honest, I'd hate to be in the shoes of those who've gone through something similar, or worse. That's why, I said "if" maturity was the deciding factor, then etc. I'm not saying it's "the" deciding factor.

My point is, there's no need to take it out on that level. Go to the firing range and let loose a couple of magazines, go to the track and burn some rubber. There are many things one can do to vent out anger, and that's not necessarily at the expense of the offending person. Why stoop to his level anyway, does it feel good?

Maybe I'm not the confrontational type, but I'm also worried, that by being a moderator, you're also posting these sort of things. The threadstarter, whoever he is, already mentioned that it was an emotional affair and I pray it's nothing more. I think your advice, in my opinion, was too harsh. Finally, there's no point in doing that, if it was also partly you or your wife's fault that it occurred.

[Bogeyman]

Maybe I'm not the confrontational type, but I'm also worried, that by being a moderator, you're also posting these sort of things.

I don't think he's a moderator in this part of the forums, so he's not necessarily posting as one.

I also see GhostHunter's views as being a little over the top, but the thing is, that's what he learned (or chose to learn) from his own situation. His methods and outlook don't necessarily apply to each of us if we were to find ourselves in the same circumstance. Some may find less destructive means to deal with it, while others might as well go all the way.

Marriage has different effects on people, which is really saying that marriage isn't for everyone.

[Gen. Miting]

^ nice words but I cant really agree on marriage having different effects on people.

when confronted in a situation as what the TS and ghosthunter experienced, there is really one effect - that feeling wherein you invested all your time and trust and dreams to a better half only to find out later that it's all for nothing. the entire thing becomes meaningless and you become empty inside.

emptiness is the worst feeling of all bec. you cant feel love nor hate, you cant raise your hopes up and you cant even end it like a book or a story.

so how do you make yourself un-empty or full again? 10% revenge, 10%get angry, 10% get your own fling, 10%breakup, repent, forgive, ask for forgiveness, and let go.

each of these emotions you have to undergo siguro kasi yan ang sinisigaw sa loob. puwede ka din mag-omit or mag-add ng emotions above ng hindi mo feel, basta ang solution talaga is to make you full again.

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now regarding the wife, well all i can say is she's weak. if she can fall in love with an anonymous texter, what more sa isang hunk na nagpapakilala sa kanya randomly in a public place. there are genes and there are DNA's. face it, you got a bimbo. you may have not realized it at first when both of you were so in-love, but who does?

at least alam mo na ngaun kung sino sya deep inside. now if you are philandering husband yourself, dont be guilty. opposites attract. philandering husbands and wives dont mix. it's either philandering wife + loyal husband or vice versa. yun lang talaga.

[Bogeyman]

^ nice words but I cant really agree on marriage having different effects on people.

It does, that's why there are the virtuous guys who easily reap Father of the Year awards, and then there are the alcoholic bastards who turn their wives and kids into punching bags. Marriage, like money, will either bring out the best or the worst in a person. When there are people who say they're not the marrying type, I take their word for it.

Some people find the married life fulfilling -- the planning, the self-sacrifice, the fortitude, the emotional security of being intimate with someone for the rest of their lives. Others find it constricting, something about having to be constantly answerable to a person who isn't their parent or boss, apart from putting up with that person's flaws every single day.

[shadow]

i prefer the more direct approach. confront him and kick his ass. take your revenge like a man

I agree! tama na ang satsat dito, gawin mo kung ano tingin mong dapat gawin..