Dealing with my Anger after Wife Confessed Affair

[empy]

i prefer the more direct approach. confront him and kick his ass. take your revenge like a man

[gearhead]

^^Hahaha so he knows who not to mess with. Then make sure his life is a living hell.

Man, why even talk about it here? Action speaks louder than words.

Then post the before and after shots.

And if the wife says anything just say "You couldn't have seriously expected to do this and not expect me to react. Cause and effect, my dear. For every action there is a reaction. So now you know what will happen if you try a stunt like this again." Pinoy street justice.

[creepy]

i prefer the more direct approach. confront him and kick his ass. take your revenge like a man

Go ahead. Kick his ass (and more). He f****ng deserves it.

But try to scr*w his wife before you do. Don't forget to post pictures.

[FullThrottle]

well, the initial question was, after I get the details of this guy, should I do something to him, whatever it may be?

i now know his full name, what he looks like and where he works. the info has been independently verified, so i'm sure this time it's the guy. there's a load more info i can get. anyone who knows what a writ of habeas data can see how far i can go.

i still get angry, especially when i'm alone, and i visualize some things that happened behind my back, some of which right in front of me. my sources tell me that this guy was bragging he had a MILF girlfriend. my blood boils to think he was referring to her.

Should i just leave it to karma and cosmic forces? Or should I take some form of action? a lot of people tell me to let it go. the good guy inside me says to let fate deal with him.

after patching up things with her, my drive to keep going this path has slackened. sorry creepy, while you have tried to put a noble spin to what I first intended, it's really retribution of some form i had in mind.

There is this proverb that says “our anger is like a wolf in our hearts that grow bigger and stronger the more we feed it, and soon it becomes so big and strong that we can no longer control it. So in order to control it, we must not feed it.” Stop feeding your anger, bro. By doing what you’re doing now—finding out details about him, where he works etc., you are just fuelling the fire of anger inside you. One thing will lead to another, and if you don’t exercise self-control now, you might end up doing something later that you will soon regret. Let it go. Then there is the principle of “garbage in, garbage out.” Feed your mind with negative thoughts, out of it will come negative actions. Do the opposite. Fill your mind with positive things and focus your time & energy on building your relationship with your wife, your family. Put the past behind you. Sabi nga sa kung fu panda, yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift—that’s why it’s called a present. Focus on the present. Focus on the positive. And hopefully with God’s grace, you will soon become a stronger family as a result of this difficult trial. Good luck and God bless bro.

[uls]

Seems like the concensus here is to take revenge...

well, go ahead, satisfy the beast in you.

send the wife's textmate to the hospital.

Question:

How many textmates does she have?

[gearhead]

Question: If someone trespassed into your home what would you do?

Now if you had an open marriage and were even swingers then the dude who wants to have a go with your wife would generally be okay with you right. You may even have welcomed him to? But from what I read you are not swingers nor do you have an open marriage. What you do have is a trespasser.

Part of the reason why your wife is trampling all over you is cause she may see weakness. Your choice dude.

There are those that espouse forgiveness but you have to see the other side of the coin.

[uls]

she can't be trusted na.

after dealing with the guy, it doesnt change the wife.

she still can't be trusted.

[gearhead]

she can't be trusted na.

after dealing with the guy, it doesnt change the wife.

she still can't be trusted.

Actually the wife is the one at fault to. It takes two to tango.

[uls]

Actually the wife is the one at fault to. It takes two to tango.

umm... from my first post in this thread to this one, i was already emphasizing one thing: the problem is the wife.

[gearhead]

umm... from my first post in this thread to this one, i was already emphasizing one thing: the problem is the wife.

Then proper action must be taken. If a person commits a wrongdoing and gets away with it what happens? There is a high likelihood that that same person will transgress once more.

Imagine if the TS got caught with his hand in the cookie jar will the wife not impose certain sanctions?