October 16th, 2007 01:54 AM
#21
Originally Posted by
Chip
BEWARE!... guess who shell be going to for advice? And guess what kind of poison they'll be pouring in her ear? I'm willing to bet that they will only reinforce her doubts and use their own experiences to validate her fears. I'm not saying its a certainty, but its a very real possibility.
Hi MR.
Chip is right. It could happen to her because of emulation or role-modeling.
And it could even be genetic. Our physique does to a certain extent condition our psyche and character development. However, these can be overcome by education, free choice, and love.
I would agree with Horsepower, too. Some kind of intergenerational healing will be necessary. Marriage is not just physical, emotional, or intellectual affair. It's a spiritual union that requires a modicum of spiritual well-being.
With that in place, the tendency to split up is superable. Both of them would be in a better position to understand love to be - beyond feelings and circumstances - a DELIBERATE CHOICE aided by spiritual resources to remain with each other and work life out together daily. Look at it this way: They still have a chance to imagine the worst-case scenarios before they tie the knot, and to simulate the problem-solving processes that will see them sticking it out together in the end.
BTW, three years is not long enough to guarantee a lasting relationship. Feel-good hormones usually fade after five. Without spiritual resources, all hell breaks loose after that. A lot of couples dive in with nary a notion of what marriage is about and how to know who to marry. Basta sabak na lang. Tsk, tsk.
Maybe you can suggest that they attend an "engaged-encounter" seminar before they marry. Parang "marriage encounter", pero prior to the wedding.
They can also avail of support groups they are comfortable with. It's almost impossible to persevere nowadays without some support group.
Last edited by dprox; October 16th, 2007 at 01:59 AM.
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